Re: help me to learn how to let go
I can totally relate with you as I went through the same thing myself. But you’ve already identified what the problem here is. You’re overthinking and are in an emotionally volatile condition right now. I myself didn’t move too far from my folks place (10 min drive tops),but in the early days of my marriage I would randomly burst into tears thinking about how “nothing will ever be the same again”. Fortunately, my husband was very sweet and supportive.
Have you considered that maybe your dad doesn’t want to have a “negative” impression on your husband (“izzat” and all that)? He may be your family now, but your dad and siblings still don’t know him well and maybe they think by revealing their problems to you, they are making themselves look bad in front of your husband/in-laws?
Instead of waiting for your family to call you, why don’t you call them instead? Tell them about what’s going on in your life and ask them what they’ve been up to. My family is the same way. My mother has even said that she feels odd calling me when the hubby is home (as if she’s intruding or whatever). I’ve tried to explain to her that I love hearing from her, but I guess that’s just the way she is. So now, I try to call her everyday. I know she looks forward to it, because if I miss a couple of days, I get a worried phonecall from her. Don’t overthink things. Your family loves you and things WILL settle down soon. These first few years of marriage may be really stressful at times, but they are also gonna be the best time in your life. Don’t spoil them by obsessing over trivial things. Good luck! 