I have a very strange problem. Each time koi rishtay ki baat hoti hai, something goes wrong. I’ve now kinda given up on this whole marriage thing and just go to work, come home and live life. I’m turning 31 SOON. VERY VERY SOON!
Aaj kal ek jagah baat chal rahee hai. I know the girl from about 3 years ago. But that time we had to kinda split for some reasons. Now that this time the thing is through proper channel, Ammi ne do jagah se unn ke yahaan rishta bheja and all. The girl is just confused and is not being able to make a decision. I’m sure She is the perfect person.
Main aaj kal itna pareshaan hun (last 5) months now ke na khaa paa rahaa hun, na sota hun (I love sleeping!) na ghar ki safaae and all (My appartment used to be spotless and now there is stuff all over the place).
I dunno if this is a good idea to even put this here. I am just so lost in life at this point. I’ve never been this lost before. She is just too figured out in life and well one mistake I made is that she knows my feelings for her. She feels something too, and says she is not going to go with wat her heart says, but what her mind tells her. Istikhaara bhi kiya hai and nothing was visible.
Main kahaan jaa karr sarr peetun? Its not my career, or anyother stuff like that. Otherday I was telling her about my friends (just 2-3 people) and two are female. Ek Australian hai aur ek Filipina. The Aus ke saath main business bhi shuroo karr rahaa hun Insha Allah. She got pissed and says ke JAAO USS SE HI SHAADI KARR LO? MAIN KYA KARUN? Then other day brings up the Filipina in a conversation and gives me a taana. BHAI she knows I love her and I am not the kind jo yahaan ek wahaan ek rakhay. Then why this crap???
Ammi is pissed at me for not being able to decide yes or no. But it not ME, she is just asking for more time and more time and I dont have an issue with that. Woh 27 ki hai.
honestly, that was a little stupid of you to tell her that you had two lady friends. I mean I know you were probably trying to be honest but you have to be very careful on the verbage you use to explain your relationships to the woman that may end up being your wife. You should have told her that they are just your co workers not your friends. A lot of women are not open minded about men having female friends, especially if the marriage is being arranged. Another thing you can do is have a talk with the girl and tell her that you will introduce her to the two girls you are friends with, she will feel a lot better once she meets them and they welcome her, and she sees nothing is going on. Unless she is completely close minded in that case you are better off without her, than you need to find a nice girl that doesnt mind your social/ business life.
Pray Istikhaara again. The best time to pray it is in the last 3rd of the night, other wise do it at night b4 u sleep. It is not necessary that u have to see some specific sign to know which way to go. Istikhaara dua is asking Allah that if the thing is good for u, to make it happen, and if its not good for u, to turn it way from u and u away from it.
Do it 3 nights in a row at least, and relax your mind to keep it open. If u make Istikhaara prayer, u have to have faith in Allah to allow yourself to accept the outcome.
Sometimes u can know the result of the Istikhaara by the way u feel about the situation in your heart. Sometimes it can be an even that is positive for the matter, or negative that makes it not happen.
Sometimes something u really want is NOT good for u, only Allah knows best.
Bhai, Uss ke mujh se zyaada dost hain. Specially guys. So narrow minded (IS SOME PEOPLE CALL IT) should be my issue here! I should be jealous. Sometimes I AM.
But that came as such a shock to me? YEH KYA HIA BHAI?
I have a very strange problem. Each time koi rishtay ki baat hoti hai, something goes wrong. I've now kinda given up on this whole marriage thing and just go to work, come home and live life. I'm turning 31 SOON. VERY VERY SOON!
Aaj kal ek jagah baat chal rahee hai. I know the girl from about 3 years ago. But that time we had to kinda split for some reasons. Now that this time the thing is through proper channel, Ammi ne do jagah se unn ke yahaan rishta bheja and all. The girl is just confused and is not being able to make a decision. I'm sure She is the perfect person.
Main aaj kal itna pareshaan hun (last 5) months now ke na khaa paa rahaa hun, na sota hun (I love sleeping!) na ghar ki safaae and all (My appartment used to be spotless and now there is stuff all over the place).
I dunno if this is a good idea to even put this here. I am just so lost in life at this point. I've never been this lost before. She is just too figured out in life and well one mistake I made is that she knows my feelings for her. She feels something too, and says she is not going to go with wat her heart says, but what her mind tells her. Istikhaara bhi kiya hai and nothing was visible.
:( Main kahaan jaa karr sarr peetun? Its not my career, or anyother stuff like that. Otherday I was telling her about my friends (just 2-3 people) and two are female. Ek Australian hai aur ek Filipina. The Aus ke saath main business bhi shuroo karr rahaa hun Insha Allah. She got pissed and says ke JAAO USS SE HI SHAADI KARR LO? :( MAIN KYA KARUN? Then other day brings up the Filipina in a conversation and gives me a taana. BHAI she knows I love her and I am not the kind jo yahaan ek wahaan ek rakhay. Then why this crap???
Ammi is pissed at me for not being able to decide yes or no. But it not ME, she is just asking for more time and more time and I dont have an issue with that. Woh 27 ki hai.
Koi dua nahin hai kya? PLEASE ANYTHING.
kaisy ho sakta hai istikhara bhi kia or jawabnah mila ho,, dobara istikhara karo or wait karo 3 days than again istikara karo wait another 3 days if jawab nahin ata to again karo,,, inshallah jawab aay ga ,,,, ho sakta hai jo dream aia ho wo aap samjh nah saky hoon so u guys can share with me so i can help you for istikhara jawab
SAYYMA: Bhai/AAPA.... I did do IStikhara, but mujhe khawaab nahin aate hain. Ammi ko bhi nahin aate. BUT MY AMMI SAW HER IN OUR HOUSE AFTER ISTIKHARA AND AS MY WIFE. I also saw a dream in which she and I were together, then one in which she was in my appartment. and one more which I do not remember.
Main waaqei ab bahut pareshaan hun iss masle ko le karr. Wahaan Ammi is now in Pakistan looking at other rishtay.
falconeer..i think now u should just pray..now ur ami is looking for u at this moment like u said so inshallah she will find appropriate ristha 4 u..dont get so wrorried..pray now more..
My interpretation of the outcome of istikhara is usually defined by two things, if Allah (SWT) makes that thing easy/accessible for you and if you feel content with the decision. Are you content with your decision to marry this girl? Has Allah made it easy for you? Maybe its not right for you and hence the delay! Sometimes, its best to let things be and move on and if this girl is meant to be your wife, she will make her mind up in time! Sorry, if its not what you want to hear!
:k: Agreed.
Seeing a dream after istikharah is a misconception. It’s not necissary. Pray that Allah (SWT) gives you whatever’s best for you. Insh’Allah if she’s the one, you will get her.
My interpretation of the outcome of istikhara is usually defined by two things, if Allah (SWT) makes that thing easy/accessible for you and if you feel content with the decision. Are you content with your decision to marry this girl? Has Allah made it easy for you? Maybe its not right for you and hence the delay! Sometimes, its best to let things be and move on and if this girl is meant to be your wife, she will make her mind up in time! Sorry, if its not what you want to hear!
TRUE.
I have now wholeheartedly left it to Allah. Aaj Meri B'day thi. Last night I thought and thought and finally concluded ke pareshan hone se kya hoga? What can I do anyways?
Ammi ne Pakistan mein dekhi hain jaisee mujhe chaahiye hain. Lets see....
Ms. xyzDubai: GS pe dekh lun? Meray paas ab net parr karne ke liye yehi kaam reh gayaa hai? :) Waise that was a cute advice! Lekin ab meray pass sachh main life main time ki qamee hai!
This is probably the most important decision of your lives, let her take as much time as she wants. Sometimes people take years and they are still not sure.
Ms. xyzDubai: GS pe dekh lun? Meray paas ab net parr karne ke liye yehi kaam reh gayaa hai? :) Waise that was a cute advice! Lekin ab meray pass sachh main life main time ki qamee hai!
'Waise, I am in Dubai too ;) hinthint
Jee pata nahi shayed, mere dimagh mai aur kuch nahi aya is lye yeh keh diya..
yeh hintin kis baat ki horahi hai :p .. i am nikkafied:p
SAYYMA: Bhai/AAPA.... I did do IStikhara, but mujhe khawaab nahin aate hain. Ammi ko bhi nahin aate. BUT MY AMMI SAW HER IN OUR HOUSE AFTER ISTIKHARA AND AS MY WIFE. I also saw a dream in which she and I were together, then one in which she was in my appartment. and one more which I do not remember.
Main waaqei ab bahut pareshaan hun iss masle ko le karr. Wahaan Ammi is now in Pakistan looking at other rishtay.
iss ka mutlab hai aap ki shadi issi ladki sy ho g,, aap bus khuda per bhroosa rakhin,,,,,,, or namaz perh kah 2 rakat nafal perh lia karain kah aalh mery lia jo bhi sahee ho jaldi faisla farma dy inshallah jaldi aap ka kam ho jy ga allah ny chaha tooo
Main kahaan jaa karr sarr peetun? Its not my career, or anyother stuff like that. Otherday I was telling her about my friends (just 2-3 people) and two are female. Ek Australian hai aur ek Filipina. The Aus ke saath main business bhi shuroo karr rahaa hun Insha Allah. She got pissed and says ke JAAO USS SE HI SHAADI KARR LO? 
Pray that Allah (SWT) gives you whatever’s best for you. Insh’Allah if she’s the one, you will get her.