salam to all, dear Fellow Falconeer, dont get too disappointed, leave everything to Allah Almighty, he does everything better, and dont need to get tensed about ur age aswell, as now adays guys really take this much time to b stablizid to get married, but 1 thing i will say that plz dont tell her abt ur frnds n all, cuz u kno girls shak karna start kar deti hain, n keep this thing in mind k jahan shak aajay wahan realationships breakup hojatay hain,
just pray to God, n try to realize her that they are just ur co-workers n nothing more,
U'll b succeed iNSHALLA
Jee pata nahi shayed, mere dimagh mai aur kuch nahi aya is lye yeh keh diya..
yeh hintin kis baat ki horahi hai :p .. i am nikkafied:p
JI AAP NAHIN! KOI COUSIN SHOUSIN? DOST WOST!
Wait so on one hand you love her and on the other your moms looking at other girls for you?
Ammi is saying ke 6 maheenay ho gayay hain... we cannot sit and wait. I told Ammi ke yeh nahin toh gimme 1-2 years to get out of it. I tend to stick to people forever. But Ammi went ahead anyways.
If she is not interested in you, then why put your life through misery. No point in being a semi-stalker. Give up on that front, and go find someone else. And by the way, why are you waiting for your ami to solve your problem? Don't get me wrong. I am all for obedient kids who marry where their parents want them to marry, but if you are 31 (and feel old enuf or too old) and your Ami can't get a rishta for you, dude, take control of your life, take action and find someone yourself.
So how much do you like this Australian gal? :p
Just kiddin', of course (the bit abt Aussie gal only) :)
Dude, each time I came up with someone, poop happened. As for me stalking her... she is interested in it too, but just that she has her reservations. Certain things she is worried about. Things about my career, and you might know, things do not happen overninght in the field of Engineering. She is being extra careful about this, which is okay by me. But Ammi is worried about the 6 months being wasted. Plus I've kinda given up on that whole LOVE theory.
If I'd fallen in love with Allah like that, I'd be in heaven already.
AND, I am in NO HURRY to get married. Kinda USED to my bachelor lifestyle.
Last 18 years I've been living alone... No roomies, or relatives. Anyone now might make me feel good for a few days, but then it might even get to me. Just a fear that I have...
I mean ke biwi aaegi toh sab badalna parega... my eating habbits, my car, my furniture, friends (?) aur pataa nahin kya kya...
By the way, you lost me with that engineering bit. Whats the link between “things do not happen overninght in the field of Engineering” and you getting hitched to this lady? Do you mean to say that you are not making enough money right now. My candid advice is that if someone is silly enough not to see the long-term potential but just gets bogged down by what you are earning currently, then really you are better off looking elsewhere.
You don’t want to be the guy who is “if all else fails, I’ll marry this person” kinda left-over. I don’t know about this love theory of yours. Personally, I think there are many ways to meet a potential life partner. There is the traditional route where your ami finds you a bride, or your friends can introduce you, or you can work through online sites, professional match-makers, bars, clubs, activities, masjid, sports - whatever. All of them are just various ways for you to meet people and if you like someone you just have to do the conventional thing which is to get to know the real person and figure out if both of you are right for each other.
Sorry, can’t help more on this. Its been quite a while since I got married, so you’ll have to check from someone who is into this scene more recently.
By the way, fear of marriage is a whole different topic. If you start one, I am sure there are plenty of advice you will get on that too, from all corners! :D
Yaar Diamond Bar aur Walnut ki masjid main, Orange ki masjid main gayaa tha... DAL NAHIN GALEE! ;) LOL!
Hum bhi puraane paapi hain...
Then came to Dubai (sucks). Yahaan ka scene hi thora thaka hua hai.
Yes, she was worried about my Salary, but I am doing this business on the side, that is doing good now (MAsha Allah). Want to open my own ___ someday (Insha Allah). Khair, that bit she is okay with now. Her parents likes me a lot. Yaar, the thing is DUA KARO KE HO JAAE! PLEASE!
Hahaha… Aisha, you are so transparent… why don’t you just go ahead and tell him the truth, that “dude, you just have 71 posts. I don’t trust my used sandal to anyone with less than 1,000 posts, let alone introduce them to my friends!!”
… well most of my female cousins that are older to me are already married adn those unger to me are too young for marriage..
