Help me .( ek mazloom admi)

[queen_24]

Re: Help me .( ek mazloom admi)

@rolla_coaster

I have been lingering on this forum for quite a while. I live in lahore and has a job, fair enough to meet my needs. I have been engaged for almost a year and my wife to be was raised and lives abroad. I like desi dressing but the issue here is not which dressing my wife to be should do. Since we have gotten engaged, i have had this feeling that she too rigid about this relationship.
She wants me to move aboard leaving my own job, so she can concentrate on her. Now like everyone I want a stable career but I want to do it on my own, with my own efforts. I want to be a self made man and expect my fiancee to have that much self respect . Everytime we speak, the way she talks it seems she is not comfortable living here in pakistan. I also want her to be a housewife and expect her to leave her career. IMO no place is bad as long as family sticks together. And my career is > than her career.

All my friend’s wives opted to compromise their career after shadi and clearly had no issues. Now how do i convey my POV across without creating a fuss. I understand shes been raised to be confident and strong but when did being strong and confident meant being rigid and uncompromising?

Its very hard for a man to share his problems ,unless a woman is given the job.

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Everytime i read one of those threads where people are worried about men back home, I thought what their perspective was , and noone of them come here to rant. Is what I wrote close to a desi mans perspective? How would you respond to his problems?

Dont tell me that you are mfcesarah’s husband-to-be by any means??

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/565902-tell-me-what-to-do.html