Hi Rida,
A few tears and supportive words mean very little if no action is taking place. Actions speak LOUDER than words.
You say that your husband is supportive and sympathetic, but unfortunately he is not strong enough to take action. Humdardi ka kya faida....jab k tumharay husband main itni himmat nahin k woh tumhay zulm se bachaye. Humdardi k kuch lafz to koi bhi bol sakta hai.....aansoo bahana bhi koi bari baat nahin hai..........LEKIN........in se tumhay kya faida ho ga? Tum khud ko kamzor samajhti ho......LEKIN.....tumhara husband to tum ze bhi ziyada....balke mazeed kamzor hai.
It is your husband's Islamic responsibility to protect you. I've heard that a husband should arrange a separate living arrangement for his wife if her in-laws are creating problems. Someone correct me if I'm wrong about this.
You cannot spend the rest of your life tolerating zulm at the hands of your in-laws. And your husband can't spend the rest of his life crying like a helpless baby. Even if your husband can't afford to move out and live separately.........Allah made him a man and he needs to be strong and take some action. He is not doing his mother and sister any favor by allowing them continue their abuse.
Tumhara husband.....chup baith ne se........apni maa aur behan par koi ehsaan nahin kar raha. Aur maa/baap/behan se darnay ka tumharay husband ko Allah ki taraf se koi sawab nahin mil raha. Maa/baap agar ghalat kaam kar rahain hain....ya ghalat naseeyat de rahain hain.........to Islam ijazat deta hai k hum un ki na sunain...........aur woh kaam karain jo k sahih hai.
Do you know why your mother-in-law and sister-in-law don't listen to your husband? Tumhay pata hai k tumhari saas aur nand tumharay husband par itna rob kyoon chalati hain???????? IS LIYE KYOON K SAAS KO PATA HAI K US KA BETA (tumhara husband) kamzor hai aur stand nahin le ga.
Jab hum doosron ko baar baar dikhatain hain k hum bahut kamzor hain.......to log utni hi dafa faida uthayain gay. LEKIN........agar hum doosron ko dikhayain k hum strong hain.....hum kisi ki badtameezi ko nahin sahay gain........hum main confidence hai........hum apne pairon par kharay ho sakte hain................to doosra banda humain tang karne se pehlay hazaar dafa sochay ga!
Basically, sweetheart, your husband needs to grow a pair of balls. And in my opinion........you need to tell your husband that you can't tolerate this abuse because it is affecting your health..........and then go live with your father. IF your husband cries like a baby.............then YOU TELL HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO TAKE ACTION. Tumharay husband ko kuch karna hoga. Varna tum aik na khatam honay walay cycle main phas jaao gi jahan woh log tumharay saath zulm karay gain aur tumhara husbad rota jaaye ga phir woh aur zulm karay gain phir husband aur roye ga. Jab tak k tumahara husband apnay haaton main y situation na lay........yeh situation repeat hoti jaye gi. Husband k parents ko maza aata hoga yeh soch kar k un ka baita itna kamzor hai aur easily control kiya jaa sakta hai.
Maybe you can live with your father for a while.......and your husband can save some money to rent an apartment........and then you both can move to a separate living arrangement. ALSO............tell your father about what is happening. And ask your father to talk to your in-laws about their behavior.
Your in-laws sound dangerous. What will happen when you become pregnant? How will they treat you then? If they don't respect you now, how will they treat you when you have children.
Tell your husband that you will be living with your father for some time.........and tell him that "Ronay se koi faida nahin hoga. Agar tumhari apni behan aisay azab se guzar rahi ho...aur agar us ka shohar bhi us k liye stand na lay.....to tumhay kaisa feel hota. It's time to take some action. "
I don't know why your in-laws are mistreating you......but the only other strategy that I can think of is for you to be nice to them. Don't argue with them. If you are instigating or fueling arguments, then you need to stop. If it is impossible for you to live with your father and if you have no other choice but to live with your in-laws.......then try being patient with them and kill them with kindness if it helps.
I cant live without my hubby I cant leave my place