help again!!

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Re: help again!!

@Mamzie

You can’t and better not put up any such tamasha with your fil. Don’t forget its not only your house but hour husbands too and your fil, being his dad, doesn’t need your permission or willingness to stay there for no matter how long he wishes to. For whatever bugs you about their behaviour you need to convey it to your husband and find a solution!

How come your husband is ok with his side of family not wishing you on the birth of your child, their grandson?

I’m not sure I agree with this part. What is it with our culture that our in laws are given a passport to completely own our lives? Yes we should seek guidance from them and ask for their opinion, but to come and go in your own house where you and your husband are living independently, and stay for as long as they want - is that fair? It’s YOUR house, and it should be a MUTUAL decision about his stay.

I know how you feel RoseAli because encounter these problems with my in-laws, and I’m still trying to work out how to solve them. But I don’t think there’s anything you can do to shorten his stay. Try to keep positive - run your house the way YOU want to run it, but smile and laugh with him to keep him happy.

Also, just another thought - do you think perhaps you having a GIRL (and not giving them a ‘potha’) might contribute to your in-laws’ lack of enthusiasm?