Hello Ladies..please pay attention...PD has a question for you girls

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Re: Hello Ladies..please pay attention…PD has a question for you girls

@phoenixdesi

Ok thx ladies… so from what i am hearing, women in principal cannot stand the idea of sharing their men regardless of their husbands’ ability to do justice among wives

and if that is true, what is your opinion of this ruling of islam allowing 4 marriages?

is it mentioned in quran somewhere that a man can marry 4 women? if so, we cannot change it but we need to make sure we do justice among our wives. PERIOD

but if it is not in quran, dont you think that we need to change this Islamic ruling through ijtihad ijmah/qiyas? I feel it is not fair to woman that a man can have more than one wife at the same time. When this ruling came, there were far more women than men because so many men died in wars. That is not true anymore.

@phoenixdesi

apa jee…i was just pointing out that our religion allows men to have 4 wives at the same time…this is a reality as long as you are muslim.

but hey i am not defending this practice by any means..as a matter of fact i am against it and i feel that this is not fair to woman.

@phoenixdesi

they can have 72 here as well…but in sets of 4. You can keep divorcing and marrying new ones but at any given time no more than 4. That is what middle eastern men do.

@phoenixdesi

and did you read any of my posts? I never said that muslim woman cannot make the divorce request or Islam stops her from divorce if he does not treat her in equality or respect or if she does not like him.

As a matter of fact, I categorically said in my very first post that in principal Islam does allow man to have 4 wives at the same time..and yes I understand that he shd treat them equally otherwise woman can ask for divorce*** but i am interested in knowing if a muslim women is OK if her husband has multiple wives or will she leave him even if her husband treats all of his wives equally and with respect…**

and i then asked the ladies that if you allow him to marry another woman because Islam allows him, how will you determine that he is indeed doing justice? seems to be unbelievably difficult task..you will be jealous when he will be spending nite with the 2nd wife and will never be happy..i never really understood this justice part. *

getting personal… calling people troll, so-called wanna-be liberalized, or how much more freedom these women want is totally unnecessary…you can debate in a civilized way as well. thx

All thorughout you disagreed with what is said and allowed in Islam.

You got few answers and agreed with them since that is what you wanted to hear.

What I said is that you are asking wrong crowd. You are making judgment based on few answers to satisfy what you repeated said you want including disagreement to what is allowed in Quran.

There is no uncivil statement in my post above.

Ask those who are still married with one or more wives of a man living happily and then come back with their answers please with a proof of what you disagree with and why.

Until then your question and judgment has no value.