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I have friends that are kinda going through this dilemma about hejab too so i guess now i feel comfortable about talking about this. I’ve been wearing hejab for three years now and I’m going through this ‘regret’ type feeling. Although my intentions were purely about islam and its teachings, but lately i feel i wore it for no purpose, and i kind of regret it (:S) I know that most likely I will not take it off, but i still have this feeling that, 'yes i wore it, but so what…" i have so many friends that act differently around me…or avoid me…and friends that i was so close with, that have changed. I also feel like i had so much potential if i didnt wear hejab (i know that may sound wrong…but thats how i feel!) physically, in school, work everything!
Also i have so many friends that are being rejected from marriage proposals just because they wear the hejab, and its kind of bringing my confidence down. Sometimes i say “i wish i didnt wear it.” and i hate that feeling, but i really do not know.
any suggestions?
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wow...i know how u feel sometimes...me and my sis discuss this sometimes--but just think --- this is all part of wearing the hijab --its all apart of jihad ... its tough yes, but u gotta fight it and have fun with ur hijab -- dress up and feel confident --take it as a fashion statement ;)
keep it hot lollll
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Yes it is tough at times, thats why if your intentions for Allah, then keep it for Allah.
Dont get caught on what if's, you will never get through it.
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Hey, I am sure that what you are feeling is normal.......even after 2 years wearing the hijaab, I get that sometimes as well - like if I have missed my namaaz, I always think...why am I wearing hijaab, I haven't prayed namaaz etc.....but it's all a test and by persevering and continuing wearing it, you are winning...your rewards in the heirafter far outweigh the reward of a few friends' company in this world......
As for girls being rejected for marriage because they wear hijaab.......unbelievable - what are these people thinking??
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even though i, myself, dont wear a hijaab, i really respect ppl like you who try so hard and wear one - but only when its for the right reasons,,,
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I really praise such ppl who in this time like to talk on such a topic bcz it,s our basic and being a Muslim we should help others and teach others in such a way that they think that Life according to Islam is no more difficult.....
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Thanks Again
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Thanks Again
its not easy wearing hijab, espicially when you might find you are in the minority, where ohers around - family and friends dont wear it, it makes it even more harder, i think i know how your feeling as im in the same boat, Allah will reqard you for your good intentions, and for obeying Him. May Allah us guide us all on the right path and give us strength. Ameen.
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I think what makes it harder for us who do wear hijaab is that...there are so many hypocrites out there - like those that wear the hijaab is such a way that it might as well not be there - those that wear totally inappropriate clothes with the hijaab, and those that wear part time hijaab (even those taht wear part time niqab!)
By wearing the hijaab, I am following the basics of my religion, I am doing it for me, and yes, I have issues with people undermining my authority at work, people not always taking me seriously etc, but hey thats their problem.......why should I compromise myself for the heirafter just so that I can accomodate those that want to wear the hijaab how and when they please
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Purplerose> Alata is a male in case you didnt kno...
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dang!!! im goin thru the same dilemma.. haah.. been wearing it for 4 (or 5?) yrs now... and i just dont feel like i deserve to wear it... i dont pray.. feel like im just a "naam ki hijabi" not the best feeling!! but i dont think ill take it off cuz i know ill regret it.. plus it does hide ur bad hair days haha..
sighs
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is it?
they have banned udnerneath tehir name..alata..
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yeah you can talk about islam right?
you sedn ppl PMs who you dnt know saying stupid stuff…if i see u PMing again ima PM ehsan uncle and tell him ur jarring my head 
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:bash:
Here Here!!
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Yes he did and I am not a happy chappy about it...because I was tryong to explain the word friend (being the nice gullible person that I am) but he was reading "flirt" AAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!:o
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^ omgggg…hes such a freak you know…i dnt know how many other people he has PMd…and then he goes into the religion forum aswell!
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At first I thought that he was a multi nick cos I looked at his previous posts and someone had mentioned in one of them - then I had enough so put him on my ignore list…
What a disgrace to the male race!
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^ i know eh!
yeah lol it was me who called him a multi......coz he types ezactliu like another guy who used to b on here
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I kno im glad that Ehsan sorted this out for me too - poor SpanishGirl was receiving the same emails, we emailed each other about this as one of her posts was removed...
Its funny but there was a person by the name Alataa online a few hours ago, dont kno if thats him though, could be he created a new nick with another 'a' at the end of his name...
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i dont know and i dont care…but if i get anymore PMs from this guy which are pure stupidity then watch me screw at him