Re: heart or mind?
There are relationships that start online and result in marriages. There are people who live across oceans and end up together. There are people who get together even after rejections and breakups. Everyone’s experience and qismat is different. It does take a while to move on from someone you genuinely care/d about and the longer the relationship lasted, it makes sense that it will take more time to move on. The process can be difficult and deserves sensitivity and not ridicule…but OP…for how long do you expect people to comfort and encourage you? There will come a point even in real life when your real friends will get tired of trying to lift you up. Yes, there is always the option of simply not responding to a post or a thread or a blog entry…but how often do you expect people to respond seriously to threads/posts/entries about the same issue? Sympathy and support have their limits in both the real and virtual worlds. Allah knows better than us. Whatever is in your qismat…tumhain mil kar hi rahay ga. If this guy is in your qismat, you will end up with him in the future regardless of current obstacles. If Allah knows him to be harmful for you, you can cry all you want and you won’t get him. Keeping this in mind, just focus on your ibadat, your studies, and other activities. If the suggestions/advice of people is not bringing you any sakoon…and that’s understandable because these people are flawed and imperfect and limited just like you…then turn to Allah, the one who has all power, the one who will never tire of listening to your concerns…and ask Him to make things easier for you.