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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
if you knew that your future spouse had a health problem ie. Diabetes, would you go ahead with the marriage?
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No, I would generally ask for their last physical report, with special emphasis on hereditary, communicable or STD related diseases. After all they can all affect "our kids" or me directly so better to be careful then sorry later. And if they haven't done those tests, then perhaps I will have them go over to my doc and get them tested just to make sure.
I would also wanna make sure they are uncorrupted moral (eg no sex before marriage), socially (eg they know how to be presentable), religiously (eg know what the required normal mores are), since all these will be directly affecting my lifestyle and our kids and could lead to problems as well.
And finally I would wanna make sure they come from the right gene pool since that too is directly affecting the kids.So there I shall be seeking potentially pretty, tall and intelligent women to make up for my stupidy (and stupidy is an evolutionary dead end consdiering how many people manage to kill themselves through their stupidy) and lack of good genes elsewhere.
and what about other deadly diseases which requires lots of attention and care to live with ok, just to be specific tell me if the future hubby/wife to-be is HCV positive and he/she tells u abt that, what would be ur reaction? would u still marry him/her knowing that he/she cant be curred and u can accquire it any time which is not the case for Diabetes. would you?
So nope, I wont marry anyone with diabetes.
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Never?
I think thats a ridiculous thing to say.I mean yes I agree that it would affect the future children.Ofcourse.
However, there is no guarantee that the person you get married to will live a healthy and full life-and have perfect kids.There is always a chance that a person can get ill after getting married, nobody knows exactly what it is that will happen to them in the future.
So yes you should ask about health problems that your future spouse may have.However unless itis life threatening in the sense that their survival chances are low- I would go ahead and marry somebody with a disease.Mind you it would depend on how severe it was.But I would not say no unless it was serious.
Im just trying to think how my friend (who is diabetic) would feel about all this.
sadzz there is always family involved in such situations.I know a girl who wanted to go ahead and marry this guy- he had some sort of disease- Im not sure exactly what.She was ok with it, but the parents werent.So she didnt marry him.
It's very easy to discuss these hypothetical situations online and say, "oh, I would never .... " or vice versa. But until you find yourself in that situation in real life, when your emotions are invested in the other person and you are both heavily involved with one another and are in love .... you just don't know!
Just a side note ... it is very possible to love somebody unconditionally and care for them without getting married. Not getting married does not translate into abandonment.
you guys there was an amitabh and jaya bachan movie, an oldie, where they show that jaya and amitabh like each other but then it is discovered that jaya has cancer and only few days to live...
amitabh still marries her even though she doesn't want him to because she says thats gona spoil his life...but he does coz he loves her and wants to give her some happiness in her last days...in the end she dies...
has anyone seen that movie..? i forgot its name..hmmm
