Hi everyone, I’m a fresh female graduate from Pakistan and need some help with making this very important decision. I’m a very practical person and never believe in anything, not even religious matters, unless I have rationalized it and it all complies with common sense.
So my reasons for wearing a head scarf emerged out of pure rationalization as well and not merely because ‘religion tells me to’. To begin with, I have veryyy long, healthy, naturally straight and sleek hair.I only get my hair trimmed every month an inch or two and haven’t cut them short from the front so there’s no face frame. I usually tie them up in a braid or wear a high pony tail. If I let them down I look like someone out the movie lord of the rings.
Now I came up with two ideas, either get a short hair cut or wear a head scarf. Short hair styles add to a person’s personality and can give you so many different kinds of face frames but I would be NUTS to be cutting my hair short. But long hair like mine are only worth sex appeal and nothing else. I feel I only look vulnerable because of my hair and I definitely don’t appreciate weirdos checking me out.
I never wore a scarf in uni but it didn’t matter much to me because I had 3 female friends and we were always together so I was too busy having fun with my friends and didn’t pay much attention to the perverts, we even did projects together when we were allowed to chose our own group partners. So I never really had to deal with men at a personal level. But in an office I would be all on my own, and I want to build an image that would help me move forward in professional life and not hinder my performance.
In uni I always ‘discovered’ men checking my hair out when I was busy doing something and it really drove me mad. Sometimes people didn’t take my presentations seriously. I noticed when I’d turn around towards the board to explain a graph or something and then turn back to look at the audience they had that smirk on there face and they clearly weren’t listening to a word I was saying. Sometimes the guy sitting behind me in class would wink at a friend and save a seat for him and I wouldn’t even begin mentioning the stalkers. Maybe I had too many perverts in my uni but whats the guarantee there wont be just as many at my office.
When I would be explaining something to a male teacher he would look at me like we usually look at a cute little child and his eyes would be saying ‘that’s my little doll!’. In my non-verbal defense I would put up very stern expressions and would sometimes look away or shoot evil looks at him but neither worked, it was only a waste of energy and cause of frustration.
So in short following are my reasons for wearing the head scarf:
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I’m going to look like an egg face any way with my hair tied up so why not wear a scarf.
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I want to save everything that’s beautiful about me for the guy I marry, women never looked at it that way but wearing a head scarf is actually sexy.
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It’s a symbol of modesty and I so don’t want to attract unwanted attention at my workplace.
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Wearing a head scarf would actually make me feel more free than suppressed, I would gain more confidence and feel more in control.
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It would save up a lot of my energy (that’s usually wasted in trying to repel perverts) which I can use doing something more productive.
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I would look much more professional wearing a head scarf than roaming around in an office with my long locks.
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People would take me more seriously.
But my concerns are that my career is very important to me, I have studied on full merit scholarship and am a position holder and don’t want it all to go to waste at any cost. If I work at an MNC they might avoid sending me on foreign tours because of my scarf 
I wish everyone is open to how I dress up but I have never worked anywhere so have no idea about the real scenario. I would really appreciate if anyone could provide me with some guidance on this matter. Thank you very much in advance!
ps. I respect all religions, cultures and traditions and never judge anyone based on these things either. To me a person is not a Muslim, Hindu, Athiest, Jew, Christian or any nationality or race. He is just another beautiful soul like all other humans with a unique personality. So itni lambi bat ka matlab ye tha k I never judge people because of the way they are dressed, and also I have no delusional belief that I am going to heaven because of my head scarf neither am I doing it in pursuit of a reward…its just what I feel like doing.
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