HE/SHE is ONLY for me!!!

Lifestyle Relationships
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what if your husband falls in love with your sister or your sister falls in love with your husband?

or your wife falls in love with your brother and vice versa

how can you prevent such a scenario to take place?

how would you feel?

i guess i would try to prevent such a thing to happen in the first place, as your siblings and partner should know their boundaries. Thats why the elders say that your siblings should not be alone with your partner or socialise with them too much either or get too free with them.

ive seen one scenario where the sister goes shopping with her brother in law while the wife is at home or at work. sibling is always sitting next to her brother in law (sisters husband) when it should be the wife. Why cant they understand that the brother in law is not a brother but like a brother and there should be distances between the two. Why does the sibling do duties for their brother or sister in law when their wives and husbands are present, such as serving dinner, doing tehir shopping for them etc etc.

So annoying, if that is the case then one should go and talk to their sibling and tell them enough is enough. but i dont understand why dont they have sense in the first place.

therefore its about time the wives and husbands do something about it before those selfish, uneducated and no self respect siblings make a mess of their own siblings relationships and then act as if they didnt know a thing.

JUST KEEP YOUR SELF FOR YOUR OWN HUSBAND AND WIFE AND TAKE YOUR EYES OF YOUR SIBLINGS PARTNERS AS THEY ARE LIKE YOUR BROTHER AND SISTER. IF YOU EYE ON YOUR SISTERS OR BROTHERS SIBLINGS THEN YOU MIGHT AS WELL EYE ON YOUR OWN BROTHER AND SISTER.

sorry if i offended anyone but im so angry and i have seen many situations like this, but god forbid if such a situation happens to anyone then they deserve that all relationships be broken from them.

it takes two to tango, so it is the partners fault as well. but if the siblings have common sense to not to become close to their brother or sister in law then perhaps they could prevent such a thing happening.

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what the hell?

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^ What she said (o.O)

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agar ham musalmaan haiN to islam iskii ijaazat nahiiN detaa...Haraam haiN aise rishte zaahir hai...sharaafat mar jaatii hai aise logoN kii jo aisa karte haiN.

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^couldnt have put it better myself, i totally agree

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You shouldn't have to prevent such scenarios, instead common sense should be used for such scenarios to never occur.

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OP: you are right. too much closeness between sibling and spouse-in-law create mess.

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I totally understand what you are saying. Some people dont understand boundaries and that can have disasterous consequences longterm

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There is a reason why Islam puts such a high emphasis on the relationship of a "brother-in-law". It's because they are in our homes, and we get to know them very closely and if you develop a crush on him or he begins to like you then who can you blame? Living in a joint family system still happens everywhere even when it is discouraged in Islam, and obviously when you're married you dress up and try to look pretty for your husband, can't really hide from the brother-in-law now can we? Us humans are just disgusting!!

I don't believe in that "just like my brother" garbage! Even bollywood(out of everything) proves that to be true. Girl has a bestfriend, treats him like brother, they get older and fall in love, the end!
At the end, it comes down to the Husband and Wife because you can't stop others but you can stop/change your own situation

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its not gonna bother me or make me feel jealous or sad that "oh my spouse interested in my sibling"...i have many other important things in life.

they both should know their boundaries/limit but if anything like this happens then yes i will tell them once or twice what they are doing is wrong, rest they are going to be mature enough to understand (if they wanna undertand).

If the situation becomes "cant live without each other" then i will back out and let the two marry and let them live happily ever after.

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^ easier said than done waise

Here's another situation:

Supposed your spouse and a relative of yours (close immediate relative) are acting in an inappropriate manner towards each other. Nothing direct enough for you to pinpoint but they keep secrets from you, they are forever in communication, you know that your relative will know more about your spouse than you will at any given time. What does one do? If after confronting you have been told basically that you have a dirty mind, but such behaviour doesnt stop?

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Not to be offensive…but someone in your situation needs to break off all ties …since you have such pathetic people as your siblings…

so the ‘spouse’ is such an innocent naive angel right?? :rolleyes:

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I dont understand why did you even have to mention bollywood to make your point… :confused: (just saying)

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:rolleyes:

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a similar thread i saw yesterday where a guy was complaining about his wife starting to like his brother. You better get details from him :)

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I cannot imagine myself falling for someone after my marriage. I mean its just something beyond my values. I know people here might say you cannot control 'love' and it just happens blah blah. But how on earth would you find yourself attracted to someone else if you are happily married to your husband. God forbid if the marriage is not a happy one, the husband is ignorant of the wife, or is himself involved somewhere else, we can think of wife getting closer to someone else. Thus if a woman is finding herself being close to someone, there is some serious problems with her marriage OR with her character. Most people here will not agree to the character part since they can think falling in love is something you don't have control and does not reflect your character but I DO believe that falling in love with someone else after your happy marriage does reflect your character, level of maturiy and stability.

Islam's discouragement of joint living is definitely to prohibit such unlawful relationships between members of opposite genders. This is such an awkward situation for everybody and should be avoided by living separately or with minimum contact with the BILs and SILs if at all they have to live in joint family.

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i dont think it would happen in normal situations or with normal people so to speak. even a child can sense the right from wrong. And if someone's morals are already lousy, what can be done.

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IMO, you should write, “Na-Mahrum shouldn’t meet with each other” instead of this long long story :cobra:

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I guess that's the standard response when people are called out on such questionable behavior. I abhor munh-bola behn-bhai rishtas. such utter crap.

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^exactly, there are other words to show appreciation/respect for people of the opposite gender than adding the "bhai" tag. hate it.