He is not going to marry you!

Recently attended a wedding.

The woman is dating a man for about a year. They ate together, sat next to each other. We talked on different funny little topics.

She asked me to ask the man to propose her when I stood up for the dessert and she followed me to the counter.

When I came back to the table and after waiting for a while and discussing few topics I casually made a remark:

“So, when am I going to attend the ceremony of you two getting married?”

The girl was very happy by her looks and said to him:

“Did you hear what he said?”

The man just smiled and asked me how was I doing and that dessert was great. Basically dodged the question.

With all the sympathy for this girl I just could not tell her,

…“Leave this guy. He will never marry you. He is a player..”

Was I wrong or right in my judgement?

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you were right.

ps. i dont understand that why men prefers to have mistress/ or gf over a wife? not only they are chipkify to them anyways, in fact they inquire about their life more then the wife.

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You were an idiot. Why the hell did you get involved into a personal issue between a couple? Dumbest thing to do ever.

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I agree with CM on this, that was none of your business.

you're a real maasi museebatain aren't you... always trying to get into the middle of other people's lives.

Because they can change them easily when they get bored.

Bitter truth.

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maybe he was a private person and didn't want to say anything in front of you?

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nope ... he wasn't going to marry her ... otherwise u don't strait out dodge the question ... u may give excuses because of xyz ... but u don't avoid it ... now thats another thing that diwana shldn't have jumped into someone else's life but then again if i was him and someone had asked me for a favour like that and i didn't know the background between the two I probably would have done the same

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The wise guy rejected any peer pressure :k:

Dumb of woman to involve someone else into it .

Dumbness was on the part of the girl asking some random guy to get involved.

That's really sad that she has to get a total outsider involved....

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It is not as per to get the 3rd person involved in one's mess or Fantasy.

Though you may have judged him wrongly because guys are shy when asking for it also.

If he clearly told you that "I am not ganna marry her, I m just going to have fun with her"

Than you did wrong not telling your friend.

If you assume that he is a player than you have judged the person very wrongly.

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Yes, it is wrong of you to jump to that conclusion.

There could be a gazillion reasons why he didn't respond to the question. You do not have enough information. They may have recently had a fight about that and he might be bitter. So didn't want talk about it again. He isn't ready at that time and hopes to be ready soon. The girl does the same thing all the time; asks random people to ask him and he knows it. Or simple put he thought you asking such a question was very rude.

Usually, its a good idea to steer away from that question unless the couple offers some information that shows that something like that might be coming up. Or if you are their best friend, ask your friend, not the couple.

I am sorry. You are in the wrong there and so was the girl to have asked you to ask him that.

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You were absolutely right! He is NOT going to marry her, ever. I've seen plenty of cases and I just wonder why don't these silly women back off?

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*This girl is getting dumped any day now! *

True!

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There are few aspects here which need to be added.

1- I was not a random guy. Know both for a long time.

2- While it can be said that it was their personal life issue no matter how close I were to be to both, the relationship had been discussed among all three of us few times before. Not to the point of their 'marriage' though.

3- The woman is rightfully getting anxious.

4- Both are highly educated and professional.

5- Both are good looking. She was once divorced after a short marriage. Reason of which I never asked her but from others I know she was not at fault.

6- She pleaded my involvement and indicated she was ready to move on if despite this direct question he is not getting her intention.

7- I have not indicated to her my judgement to avoid planting my idea in her and left it to her to decide.

8- If after that long of dating, he has not proposed he will never. Unless some twist/change to the relationship happens. (can be disussed later)

9- Yes, it is sad to see a woman coming to the point of asking a third person to be involved.

10- Will try to post if something I find out.

awesome. please do.

in fact, do you think you could post their names, pictures, addresses and phone numbers as well... that way we can truly get involved with this story and in their lives.

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The point is that if after a while the guy is not proposing, the guy is a player.

Samb: You have a great way to make a fool of yourself. Keep it up! :)

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Good grief, what are retarded generalization. Proposing is not lightening up a cigar.

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Players do exist and it is not written on their faces.

The sooner a woman realizes this, better for her to keep her dignity.