Me and my fiancé have studied together in a levels and later chose the same career although we were never in the same institution. He started working in October mid and shortly after that problems started. He obviously started giving me less time which is ok, but the time he gave slowly became minimal.. He would play this computer networking game on weekend and also play cricket in the company team so that left no time for me. I kept complaining over it and We did have happy days and days when things were perfect however, since last 2 months we haven’t really spent much alone time.. we don’t go on dinners or casual meetings and if we ever go out for coffee his mother sends his little sister with us .. shes 7 and very talkative. I don’t mind her presence except she talks too much and since im busy in my work (I have a business) I hardly have any time so I want it with him.. His mother occasionally sent her with us before but now its a bit more (probably cause we go out less). so since 2 months my only visits are to his house when I see his mother and see him too … anyway two weekends before we made a plan to see movie on last Saturday.. and he couldn’t make it cause of his cricket. I was naturally upset as I was making the plan since 1 week. I was ok but it made me angry that he wasn’t sorry about it and didn’t want to reschedule it. I spoke to him about it and he causally told me we wil go. anyway 2 days later he went out with his mom and friend of his mother whose like 5 years older then him.. I got very upset because of this as he was tired to see me but was not tired to go out with them. I decided to not talk stop talking. he called me the next day and told me to go for the movie. I told him im busy for next two days. ( I wanted him to know what rejection feels like since hes always busy for me). and its been 5 days we have been talking barely on texts. like hi how are you only. today we decided to put thigns behind us when he told me that it wasn’t a big deal that hes not been meeting me and doesn’t agree that he spends more time with his buddies. I got really upset and said bad things.. he told me he doesn’t wanna talk to me.. What do you suggest I do? How do I gain importance in his life again? P.S I’m always adjusting my plans according to his needs and I want him to make an effort too cause I don’t feel loved by him. he only needs me when his buddies are busy.. Please reply. im very depressed.
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Save all the going out for when you're married.
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People are more attractive when there's distance
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How long have you guys been together?
In the beginning, during the honeymoon phase, it's normal to spend a lot of time together. That's probably the only time you even receive texts during the Super Bowl or NHL playoffs. Then, love goes to a different stage that's not as fiery but a little more mature - right time and right place become things to consider, especially for the XYs.
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what were the bad things you said? severity of those determines the next plan of action.
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Things become special and important when you allow them to be. If everyday was your birthday, the meaning of the day would lose its importance to you. If you had biryani everyday for dinner, you'd get sick of it eventually too. Over simplified examples, yes. But I hope you understand what I am trying to say. Ignore him for a while...leave him alone and let him come to you. Stop making plans to go out with him and adjusting your schedule to his. Get a life and let him have a life.
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ignore him like reha said. not ignore like not answering the phone etc, but ignore like whenever he calls tell him you are out with friends or for work or busy doing house chores etc. make him feel as if you are always too busy for him. he will eventually start chasing you rather than the other way around.
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Me and my fiancé have studied together in a levels and later chose the same career although we were never in the same institution. He started working in October mid and shortly after that problems started. He obviously started giving me less time which is ok, but the time he gave slowly became minimal.. He would play this computer networking game on weekend and also play cricket in the company team so that left no time for me. I kept complaining over it and We did have happy days and days when things were perfect however, since last 2 months we haven't really spent much alone time.. we don't go on dinners or casual meetings and if we ever go out for coffee his mother sends his little sister with us .. shes 7 and very talkative. I don't mind her presence except she talks too much and since im busy in my work (I have a business) I hardly have any time so I want it with him.. His mother occasionally sent her with us before but now its a bit more (probably cause we go out less). so since 2 months my only visits are to his house when I see his mother and see him too ... anyway two weekends before we made a plan to see movie on last Saturday.. and he couldn't make it cause of his cricket. I was naturally upset as I was making the plan since 1 week. I was ok but it made me angry that he wasn't sorry about it and didn't want to reschedule it. I spoke to him about it and he causally told me we wil go. anyway 2 days later he went out with his mom and friend of his mother whose like 5 years older then him.. I got very upset because of this as he was tired to see me but was not tired to go out with them. I decided to not talk stop talking. he called me the next day and told me to go for the movie. I told him im busy for next two days. ( I wanted him to know what rejection feels like since hes always busy for me). and its been 5 days we have been talking barely on texts. like hi how are you only. today we decided to put thigns behind us when he told me that it wasn't a big deal that hes not been meeting me and doesn't agree that he spends more time with his buddies. I got really upset and said bad things.. he told me he doesn't wanna talk to me.. What do you suggest I do? How do I gain importance in his life again? P.S I'm always adjusting my plans according to his needs and I want him to make an effort too cause I don't feel loved by him. he only needs me when his buddies are busy.. Please reply. im very depressed.
Don't get married. You sound like those over obsessive girlfriends on 9gag.
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above ... you sound like those who are quick to pass judgement on others ....
if you have nothing positive to contribute to this thread then, i think, it may be a wise idea to simply stay out ...
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Thats good that u 2 are not spending time alone...u are not related in anyway...he is not ur mehram.... may be u r not muslim??? But u shd not spend any time with him.
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above ... you sound like those who are quick to pass judgement on others ....
if you have nothing positive to contribute to this thread then, i think, it may be a wise idea to simply stay out ...
no, thank you. i am only contributing my opinion. it's a public forum.
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How long have you guys been together?
In the beginning, during the honeymoon phase, it's normal to spend a lot of time together. That's probably the only time you even receive texts during the Super Bowl or NHL playoffs. Then, love goes to a different stage that's not as fiery but a little more mature - right time and right place become things to consider, especially for the XYs.
NHL?
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^naashta and hookah lounge
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OK. Now that I can understand.
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^naashta and hookah lounge
LOL.
Southie, if you're North American, it's a pretty big offence not to know what NHL stands for. National Hockey League??
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How old are you?
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- Please use paragraphs.
- Don't make someone a priority in your life when you're only an option in theirs.
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[HR][/HR]OP, perhaps for your OH the honeymoon phase of the courtship is over and he's now waiting for when you do get married to make any effort?
Also, if your OH is busy with his social activities etc why don't you try and do the same? I know running your own business is stressful and somewhat lonely but it can be done. I ran my own businesses for over 5 years but never lost contact with my friends from College etc. Making new friends when you are self employed it always a problem.
Don't get me wrong, my OH is a priority in my life however we do have interests separately. He has his cricket and the buddies that come with that. I have my college day best friend and my university buddies. Although I don't get to spend as much time as I would like to with them; seeing them provides me with enough social life to not be too fussed if my husband hasn't found time for me during the week. He works and I am currently a SAHM working on writing. I'm also expecting baby number 2, which can be stressful but you need to find a balance.
The fact you never see him alone could be three things:
1) he really IS busy and cannot strike a balance between you, his siblings and parents so sees all at once
2) he wants to discover WHO he his and what HE likes before he gets married. Some people like to define themselves before marriage-no biggie. It's a bit like taking time out from a career to see what you really want to do. In this case he may want to know what his likes/dislikes and hobbies are before 'him' becomes 'us'.
3) he wants to keep a certain amount of distance to add a bit of mystery to the marriage
Out of curiousity, have you both spoken about what your priorities are considering you do have a relationship prior to marriage? I'm just wondering if your OH is the type that works hard and plays harder and relationships are generally put on the back boiler if something more interesting comes along?
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first it was SO now what is this OH businsess?? 
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OP, your SO needs some S&T.. its better if you leave him for a CPT.. I hope thing WB better soon when he feels He’s being ignored.. ST you need to make your SO feels how does it feels TY!
I hope EO understood it! 