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He might have bought a smart phone and perhaps busy in reading blogs, news, watching songs on youtube etc. It takes time to get used-to with all these. Have patience.
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Yes, do you remember what phone he had? We are very much interested in learning new things especially sophisticated electronic gadgets.
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Yes, do you remember what phone he had? We are very much interested in learning new things especially sophisticated electronic gadgets.
He didn't get a new phone. That has nothing to do with it
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Ok
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I agree we need to meet in person and discuss this. That way I can see his body language too. As far as I know, nothing in his job hasn't changed. He's been looking elsewhere too and he's mentioned that he's a bit stressed because of that, but it wasn't a huge deal to him. We're going to be living with his parents so there's no pressure to move out. I really don't know what else it could be. I'm praying it's just major cold feet and nothing else
Yes, meet with him in person. The wedding is in 4 months. You two should see each other at least once every 2 weeks. Either you hang out in a group setting OR the two of you have lunch or meet for coffee. Talk to each other in person. Catch up on what's going on, talk about any issues you need to clarify...especially since you're moving in with his family, update him on wedding stuff etc.
You said the magic words...."as far as I know". You don't live with him and you really have no idea what's going on with him on a day-to-day basis. You know he's stressed about looking for another job. Stress is stress. Only he knows in his mind whether or not this is a big deal. Who knows....maybe he's choosing not to share his work related stress with you because he think you might already be stressed about the wedding. Since you don't live with him, you also don't know what's going on at his home with his parents/siblings as far as the wedding preparations/you moving in with them preparations.
I also wanted to mention that just because he is online, that doesn't mean he's in the mood to talk to anyone. You don't know for a fact that he's chatting with others when he's online do you? Maybe he's online reading or playing games etc. to keep his mind off work/wedding etc. Unless you know for a fact the he is initiating online conversations with others while ignoring you....don't allow assumptions to get you all worked up.
In 4 months you will be living with him. You two had several years to get to know one another before saying yes to this wedding. Trust your relationship. At this point, you should not need constant reassurance that he wants to marry you. You have 4 months until your life changes forever. When you move in with your in-laws, you will have new responsibilities and will need to make adjustments. Instead of spending these 4 months worrying about why he's not messaging you........do you best to have fun! Hang out with your friends as much as you can and spend time with your parents. Finalize last minute wedding preparations. Don't ruin these last few months of being single by focusing so much on something as simple as him not messaging you and please don't escalate the situation by making assumptions about what's going on with him on the other side of the city.
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Yes, meet with him in person. The wedding is in 4 months. You two should see each other at least once every 2 weeks. Either you hang out in a group setting OR the two of you have lunch or meet for coffee. Talk to each other in person. Catch up on what's going on, talk about any issues you need to clarify...especially since you're moving in with his family, update him on wedding stuff etc.
You said the magic words...."as far as I know". You don't live with him and you really have no idea what's going on with him on a day-to-day basis. You know he's stressed about looking for another job. Stress is stress. Only he knows in his mind whether or not this is a big deal. Who knows....maybe he's choosing not to share his work related stress with you because he think you might already be stressed about the wedding. Since you don't live with him, you also don't know what's going on at his home with his parents/siblings as far as the wedding preparations/you moving in with them preparations.
I also wanted to mention that just because he is online, that doesn't mean he's in the mood to talk to anyone. You don't know for a fact that he's chatting with others when he's online do you? Maybe he's online reading or playing games etc. to keep his mind off work/wedding etc. Unless you know for a fact the he is initiating online conversations with others while ignoring you....don't allow assumptions to get you all worked up.
In 4 months you will be living with him. You two had several years to get to know one another before saying yes to this wedding. Trust your relationship. At this point, you should not need constant reassurance that he wants to marry you. You have 4 months until your life changes forever. When you move in with your in-laws, you will have new responsibilities and will need to make adjustments. Instead of spending these 4 months worrying about why he's not messaging you........do you best to have fun! Hang out with your friends as much as you can and spend time with your parents. Finalize last minute wedding preparations. Don't ruin these last few months of being single by focusing so much on something as simple as him not messaging you and please don't escalate the situation by making assumptions about what's going on with him on the other side of the city.
By online I mean on WhatsApp, which is why I'm assuming he's not too busy to speak to others. Unless he's just checking to see if I'm online or something. But I suppose you're right. I should make the most of this time and try to not let this bother me (even though it's eating away at me). Thanks!
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hmmm I'd be worried...getting cold feet is normal. Hopefully he can be reassured and get back to normal. I think my husband and I spoke every day until the wedding.
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any updates OP ?
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Alrightay..so i say this. I was in your husband's shoe sometimes ago. But you know what??. personally speaking when i didn't text message or whatever..not because i didn't care. That is because i had so much in my mind. Finance, Job, and how are you going to manage your whole life. And secondly, it is not that..i wanted to hide all this from my SO but i like to deal with it on my own on my terms. I know it sucks..but eventually i would have shared with significant other. So do not take it personally..ya guys are getting married..insha'Allah focus and look at the big picture..
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any updates OP ?
Things are better now. Turns out he was stressed (and there was another misunderstanding too). We talked things out and he promised he'd communicate next time instead of leaving me in the dark. It wasn't cold feet either as he mentioned he's looking forward to the wedding lol. Hopefully it doesn't happen again.
Thanks for the advice everyone!
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that's awesome !