Re: he doesn't care
arshad5,
if unexpectedly a man approaches you and proposes you after getting to know you, and seriously sounds, affirms that he is committed, then before the third meeting, you invite his family to your parents home, his mother and sister visits and then they don’t reply back and then he avoids speaking, lays the blame on the woman for being able to note that they will not let him marry her, and then merely writes an email saying he cant marry after he had proposed. whose actions are just and whose fault is it, then?
you cant say that a woman is going to steal the son of the family to get married. according to your prime age sexism concept or rule, good young women normally don’t just pick and bring men home as husbands.
please don’t get this tone wrong.
can you do that, absolutely marry even when someone you would marry if they were ready, are not ready, after all the respect you can give to them, they still doubt you or keep you or abandon you as a second to their whatever standards?
such a woman as in this description would have supported this person a lot and have happily taken care of his family, as well, nicely only if they had given her respect.
yes, it takes two to do anything long term and life constructive, nurturing a bond, it takes two clear hearted people- a woman and also a man.
what do you mean by push and shove?
how is it dif when prospect seekers come drooling in girl’s parents' home?
and huff and puff and compare and contrast, no matter how lousy their own sons are.
but when one proposes, should he not follow through?
you are absolutely right.
when the limit was set, it was taken to be a snare rather than a shield and a kind support.
he did not know what to do and he did what he did not want to do. and it is hurtful to know that now, tables are turning. and this woman is unable to be around as a lawful better half to support him, because he deserted her, she has not.
best,
Dushwari
Dushi: I think women owe themselves a duty to get married at their prime marriageable age. If they spent too long in dating one guy or being choosy and then end up with nothing, it is a ladies fault as well. You can blame the guy but the lady herself should have made the right choices. It takes two to tango. You have to expect that guys will play with girls and keep them hanging on and when the push comes to shove they will walk away. Therefore girls should set a restrict time limit by when the guy has to say either yes or no. Otherwise they have only themselves to blame.