Re: Having Four Wives
actually, its NOT sanctioned by islam. that is a misunderstanding of what it says. its funny cos i was just discussing this with my grandfather, who’s read the quran thoroughly. what it actually says is that you can have 4 wives, IF you can provide justice and love for them all EQUALLY. and that line is followed by But i know that you cannot because it isnt possible, and here “I” refers to God. and when you think about it, it is against human nature to have identical feelings for four different people. you might think you can love them all equally and treat them all equally but for one, its hard to measure the equality and second, people are flawed, not perfect, and will probably not be able to fulfill that condition. therefore, its actually not allowed.
islam only allows a second wife while the first one is living, if the first one is barren, i.e. cannot have children.
its also illegal in pakistan to have multiple wives unless you provide a signed statement to the court and ask for permission. and one of the way of getting this permission from your existing wife, is by abusing her and forcing her to sign that paper. then you bribe the local cops and make sure they don’t see any visible marks of abuse, and you’re home free, so to speak. i think thats why it happens amongst illiterate people… or am i wrong in that assumption?
as for nothing repugnant about it- i’d say there is! if people are arguing that marriage is a state between a man and a woman when it comes down to gay marriages, well then marriage is also a state between ONE man and ONE woman too. i think you would be disrespecting your wife if you decided to get another one. what could/would your first wife have to lack for you to want another one? more sex? more kids? more company? more jaheyz? what?