Having a physical relationship b4 marriage

Strictly speaking it is but I think the lesser of the two evils rule applies here where pleasuring himself is considered ok if it stops him from going out and sleeping with someone else..

(Imo ppl should worry about themselves before going round judging everyone else, riba is considered a worse sin than adultery yet a lot of those who go on about sex b4 marriage are doing that left right and centre, not directed at u MB)