Is it often cuz you can’t wait till you are married or is it to prove your love and commitement to your partner?
How important it is in today’s time and age for you to remain chaste till you’re married? Is it worth saying no to your partner for it which may mean that you are risking your relationship for it?
Be honest.
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Serious questions?
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Very.
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when it comes to Islam you just have to obey it without asking any questions and in Islam zina is a major sin. engagement or bf gf relationship does not exist in Islam. Nikah is what that matters. Without nikah physical relationship falls in the category of zina. Zina a thousand years back was a sin and is a sin and will remain a sin. laws of Allah do change with era or time.
commitment or proof of love can go to hell. first prove your love to Allah by obeying him than prove it someone else.
the above is my perspective !
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I don't know.....never been in such situation where I have to prove my love by sleeping with him etc etc.
I don't know.....never been in such situation where I have to prove my love by sleeping with him etc etc.
I am hoping most wouldnt have been, but one always know what they would do in a similar situation. You can assume if you want to share you views with us.
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Nobody here in their right minds will post about their haram relationships.
when it comes to Islam you just have to obey it without asking any questions and in Islam zina is a major sin. engagement or bf gf relationship does not exist in Islam. Nikah is what that matters. Without nikah physical relationship falls in the category of zina. Zina a thousand years back was a sin and is a sin and will remain a sin. laws of Allah do change with era or time.
commitment or proof of love can go to hell. first prove your love to Allah by obeying him than prove it someone else.
the above is my perspective !
My questions were not aimed regarding Islam. It was more about what an individual thinks and why.
Btw, i completely agree with you. If one has to prove their love or strengthen their relationship through something that they are not comfortable doing then that's the most unfortunate thing and i dont see good future for such a relatioship. But unfortunately from what i read and hear, alot of people have been victims of such situations. Actually to be honest, i am not sure if i can even call them victims cuz i believe if someone is mature enough to fall in love and have a relationship then they might as well be assertive enough to stand for their views.
Nobody here in their right minds will post about their haram relationships.
Well who asked for it? all that i was aiming to hear was everyones views about this whole thing.
And if someone is "bold" enough to have a physical relationship b4 marriage then why should they shy away from admitting it? If they do, that means they also understand its wrong but still do it for reasons that shouldnt matter actually. And that's the point i was trying to make.
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There might be several reasons:
They're not religious enough to have strong Iman.
They're not religious (ignorant of their deen) at all.
They're being forced.
They can't control their emotions.
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^ thats about the reasons i also pointed out. but do you thnk its right or wrong even based on the above reasons?
^ thats about the reasons i also pointed out. but do you thnk its right or wrong even based on the above reasons?
We all know it's wrong, there is no situation that justifies such relationships. Nothing but following ones desires.
We all know it's wrong, there is no situation that justifies such relationships. Nothing but following ones desires.
but there r alot of people who do it and dont find it wrong. i wonder how they justify it? hmm honestly!
but there r alot of people who do it and dont find it wrong. i wonder how they justify it? hmm honestly!
So many factors..
Let's start with the basics.. our foundations might not be strong enough to reach an understanding of what's right and wrong. Foundation instilled in us by our parents. We learn our basics at home so if mother is praying, we know that praying is important and we will feel guilty missing it even if we don't know it's an order from Allah, (eg; young age) .. Same way if mother does not find anything wrong in these relationships then we will not feel any guilt in exploring such relationships. Then comes outside influence... and so on.
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^ true. How we r brought up truely impacts and its not that any household teaches their kids 2 go out and have sex but its when they forget to stop their kids from doing things that r way out of the border line. Its probably then when kids think they can do as they desire and there wl be no implication. I think it starts from one thing and a times comes when the kids crosses all the limits n by then its too late.
hmmm.
^ true. How we r brought up truely impacts and its not that any household teaches their kids 2 go out and have sex but its when they forget to stop their kids from doing things that r way out of the border line. Its probably then when kids think they can do as they desire and there wl be no implication. I think it starts from one thing and a times comes when the kids crosses all the limits n by then its too late.
hmmm.
True said. The laisser faire attitude never works.
But
The other extreme of banning everything and putting a blindfold on the child never works either.
Both situations have high chance of backfire.
Best is to raise the kid in a healthy environment inside and outside the home by letting them have the [halal] luxuries and freedom others have. Differentiating from right and wrong will then come naturally.
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^ yup, like for everything "balance" is the way to go about.
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By all means go for it. Who cares about religion these days anyway?
By all means go for it. Who cares about religion these days anyway?
If nobody did then you wouldnt be seeing this topic :)
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if this is the way the person thinks would 'prove' my love for him.. then he is dumped for ever because this is certainly NOT the right way of 'proving'