Having a baby outside of marriage?

[redvelvet]

Re: Having a baby outside of marriage?

@llxxll

is it necessary she had physical relations outside of marriage what if she was one of those girls who had a difficult time finding a suitable rishta and decided to go the IVF route or the adoption route to at least have a baby?

Western society is either accepting or is become more accepting of divorced women, single women who choose to adopt children, women who decide to go the IVF route, homosexuality.

Now, I’m not saying that we should accept and be tolerant of premarital sex, etc. However…when our desi society STILL (in this day and age) considers divorced women as a “blemish”…even if she was more the victim in her marriage…do you really think it would develp a lax attitude toward having a child out of wedlock, single women adopting children…any time soon? Sure, one situaiton is less sinful than the other…and one may be less frowned upon than another. What I’m trying to say is that when our society has a rigid attitude even toward things that ARE allowed by Islam and that can be jusitifed by religion…how soon do you think it would become more “accepting” of something that IS clearly prohibited in Islam?