Do you know of anyone in our community who has had a baby outside of marriage? I know one such woman and she is a single parent. Even though she was shunned by all of her social circle, she kept her child.
My question is, is it becoming more acceptable as time goes on?
We seem to have relaxed on homosexuality…is this also going to be more acceptable?
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I have not seen any such case here but i am sure it happens everywhere :(. Don’t know how many keep the baby or not.
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so is our community relaxed on desi homos?? i didn’t even know that…
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What about a desi woman who is single and chooses to adopt a child. How open is our society to even something like that?
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^ Adoption is fine but having baby outside marriage is against everything that Islam believes in. That would be a disaster if we started to take it easy.
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why ‘judge’ TLK?? :khums:
Don’t you know , you are not supposed to ‘judge’ people like that??
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Adoption is "fine" when you compare it to premarital sex....but is it really all that "fine" in our culture if a single woman does it? Can we so easily say that? Wouldn't it still create a stir?
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Most wl doubt her character and think its her own child, you know how desi people think! 
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Its becoming much more common and some dont even hide it anymore.
I think she would just be considered a single parent with a child in that case, no?
You need to do tang arana everywhere? 
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My question is, is it becoming more acceptable as time goes on?
As the time goes on, every haram thing is going to become the norm and Islam is going to completely wear out. True story, qayamat ki nishani. o_O
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I wouldn’t be surprised if some people thought that about her..and I had posted this point before and then deleted it.
Reha, she would be thought of as a “single parent”…but I think some would still make a big deal about it…by jumping to the conclusion that Zareen brought up …and also by frowning upon the idea of a woman doing it by herself without a husband/father. I think it would be “less acceptable” than a woman who was previously married and is raising her biological kids on her own. That sort of single parent would be accepted more easily than a single mother who adopts a child…and…a woman who had a child out of wedlock.
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As the time goes on, every haram thing is going to become the norm and Islam is going to completely wear out. True story, qayamat ki nishani. o_O
Indeed. And you'll see more and more people say things like "to each their own" and "so what."
I don't know anyone personally who's had a child out of wedlock but I have heard of a couple of cases. I don't think our society is ready for that just yet...
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So you ok with gays?? just not with the child out of wedlockk???
hey..i am just posting…if you don’t like it…you know who to tell 
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^ where did she say that she is ok with gays?
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And what about IVF wherein the egg is fertilized outside the body and then placed back inside the female...is that unacceptable too?
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Um, this thread isn’t about gays 
. Can we stick to the topic please?
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^ where did she say that she is ok with gays?
i was just trying to confirm if she agreed with the view of the OP regarding acceptability of gays in the society.....
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i was just trying to confirm if she agreed with the view of the OP regarding acceptability of gays in the society.....
comparitevly that might be the case .. like I think Beagum Nawazish Ali guy is a gay, right?
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If people have started to accept gays, doesn't mean my personal opinions are included in that. Personally I am not a supporter, but I'm not one to waste time rallying for or against them. Regarding out of wedlock children...again, I'm not in support of that. Take Islam out, but having a child without a marriage seems unreasonable. It's different if a marriage breaks up and then a parent becomes a single parent.
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If people have started to accept gays, doesn't mean my personal opinions are included in that. Personally I am not a supporter, but I'm not one to waste time rallying for or against them. Regarding out of wedlock children...again, I'm not in support of that. Take Islam out, but having a child without a marriage seems unreasonable. It's different if a marriage breaks up and then a parent becomes a single parent.
Gots your point.....
well.......if someone went ahead and had sex out of wedlock, that person knows already what to expect from the society,if its found out..............and so if she is having a baby......i think she is more than aware of what she might expect from people........