Have you ever had..

Mehnaz · May 22, 2006, 11:46pm

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Guys, can you stay on topic please?

I’ve edited and removed some remarks. Please keep it decent .. and on topic.

Thanks

mYsTeRiOuS_gUy · May 22, 2006, 11:58pm

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When did i say that men SHOULD not be loyal to their wives and keep hitting on others??? I just said that some women may naturally feel attracted to unmarried men as well but since they are more responsible and they have more to lose if things go wrong, they tend to control themselves more than men (Because in men’s case, they can say sorry and be nice and things will get better sooner or later).

Impulse · May 23, 2006, 12:12am

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I believe they will only "hit on you" if you give them a reason to or encourage them.
I have never encouraged them....never will.
if I notice a guy looking at me (more like staring), i'll just ignore him and pretend i didnt even notice him....or that im not interested.....he wont waste his time then....

Ex-Guppan · May 23, 2006, 12:14am

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Well, am questionning your justification as to why men and women act as u said. To a major extent, women care for religious and cultural values, and not just loosing on financial grounds so let’s say they may get/feel attracted to someone, they won’t express bcoz of values. Guys should do the same but they do it since they have nothing to loose on financial grounds, besides, they know she’s not gonna get a label of talaq and go back to her parents’ house, so they get by with some sorry.

By the way, here in United States, there’s a law called, “Alienation of Affection”. If a woman/man suspects that her husband/his wife is cheating or getting more affectionate towards another woman/man, she/he can file a case against the other woman/man of “Alienation of Affection”, which basically means that this other person who entered into their partner’s life has caused their partner to alienate their affection. I know one woman who hired a PI (private Investigator) to spy on her husband and recorded the proofs that he was getting more affectionate towards his female colleague. The woman threaten to sue the other woman. Her husband begged her not to do that, and agreed to sign over everything, house, cars, and other assets in his wife’s name and agreed to be loyal to her. So now if he cheats, he would be out on the streets since she has everything. lolllzz

There was a case not so long ago in North Carolina where the woman sued her husband’s lover and her husband got kicked out of the house, lost right to everything. His girlfriend was fined by the Court for a big sum of money 50K or 500K or perhaps more, not sure about the amount. There has been a movie on this too.

So ladies make sure you get married in one of those states which accept the law of Alienation of Affection, I bet even if he looses sight of religion and or other cultural and family values, he wudn’t wanna loose everything he built so far

Ex-Guppan · May 23, 2006, 12:18am

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Men are not that simple or easy, esp. desi men. If Raja Hindustani was reading this post, he wud have said, there’s a song about this situation:

Jhatak keh daman dikha keh aankhein chali ho janay kahan
karay ga peecha wohi deewana, payari na ho jis ko jaan

Besides at work place, you have to act very diplomatic. There are no hard and fast rules, but if you do face such a situation, one must act very smart, so that they don’t go around and start rumours about you since you weren’t easy to get!

Sara516 · May 23, 2006, 12:24am

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Larki-NY:

Well, am questionning your justification as to why men and women act as u said. To a major extent, women care for religious and cultural values, and not just loosing on financial grounds so let’s say they may get/feel attracted to someone, they won’t express bcoz of values. Guys should do the same but they do it since they have nothing to loose on financial grounds, besides, they know she’s not gonna get a label of talaq and go back to her parents’ house, so they get by with some sorry.

By the way, here in United States, there’s a law called, “Alienation of Affection”. If a woman/man suspects that her husband/his wife is cheating or getting more affectionate towards another woman/man, she/he can file a case against the other woman/man of “Alienation of Affection”, which basically means that this other person who entered into their partner’s life has caused their partner to alienate their affection. I know one woman who hired a PI (private Investigator) to spy on her husband and recorded the proofs that he was getting more affectionate towards his female colleague. The woman threaten to sue the other woman. Her husband begged her not to do that, and agreed to sign over everything, house, cars, and other assets in his wife’s name and agreed to be loyal to her. So now if he cheats, he would be out on the streets since she has everything. lolllzz

There was a case not so long ago in North Carolina where the woman sued her husband’s lover and her husband got kicked out of the house, lost right to everything. His girlfriend was fined by the Court for a big sum of money 50K or 500K or perhaps more, not sure about the amount. There has been a movie on this too.

So ladies make sure you get married in one of those states which accept the law of Alienation of Affection, I bet even if he looses sight of religion and or other cultural and family values, he wudn’t wanna loose everything he built so far

hahha awesome !!

Ex-Guppan · May 23, 2006, 12:41am

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Okay girls and guys too

If anyone wants to find out which states allow Alientaion of Affection Lawsuits, visit the following web-page:

http://marriage.about.com/od/legalities/a/alienation.htm

If anyone of you wants to find out any legal info. about any kind of issue without involving anyone else, visit, www.legalmatch.com
You can make an account with them, pretty safe and secure and they match a lawyer with your request, who can advise you without any fee about the options available to you.

For those who don’t like me giving out this info. pls. don’t hate me, am only empowering people so that your brothers and sisters do not get taken advantage of. Just remember the golden rule, you mess up one time you loose big time

Allah sub peh reham keray and may he guide us all to the right path, ameen

mYsTeRiOuS_gUy · May 23, 2006, 12:50am

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Larki-NY:

Well, am questionning your justification as to why men and women act as u said. To a major extent, women care for religious and cultural values, and not just loosing on financial grounds so let's say they may get/feel attracted to someone, they won't express bcoz of values. Guys should do the same but they do it since they have nothing to loose on financial grounds, besides, they know she's not gonna get a label of talaq and go back to her parents' house, so they get by with some sorry.

By the way, here in United States, there's a law called, "Alienation of Affection". If a woman/man suspects that her husband/his wife is cheating or getting more affectionate towards another woman/man, she/he can file a case against the other woman/man of "Alienation of Affection", which basically means that this other person who entered into their partner's life has caused their partner to alienate their affection. I know one woman who hired a PI (private Investigator) to spy on her husband and recorded the proofs that he was getting more affectionate towards his female colleague. The woman threaten to sue the other woman. Her husband begged her not to do that, and agreed to sign over everything, house, cars, and other assets in his wife's name and agreed to be loyal to her. So now if he cheats, he would be out on the streets since she has everything. lolllzz

There was a case not so long ago in North Carolina where the woman sued her husband's lover and her husband got kicked out of the house, lost right to everything. His girlfriend was fined by the Court for a big sum of money 50K or 500K or perhaps more, not sure about the amount. There has been a movie on this too.

So ladies make sure you get married in one of those states which accept the law of Alienation of Affection, I bet even if he looses sight of religion and or other cultural and family values, he wudn't wanna loose everything he built so far :) :D

GREAT!!!!! How many desi women will try that????

Sadaf · May 23, 2006, 4:56am

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Change your avatar Mehnaz, its scary

skhan · May 23, 2006, 5:35am

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All the poor souls that haven’t been hit on must be wondering what they’re doing wrong.

Mehnaz · May 23, 2006, 10:27am

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As amusing as the thought is for you skhan, I can't complain. :)

Ex-Guppan · May 23, 2006, 12:39pm

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Your response reminded me of this rape case in Lahore (long time ago) that judge gave the decision against the victim. He said, "since the lady was wearing red underwear, that means she was inviting ......" So she was charged. How long are we gona keep blaming the gals for being provocative and inviting?? Not everyone is like that! From a guy's perspective, inviting or no inviting, if they like a particular girl, they want to make an attempt to let her know. Again not all, am not generalizing, so pls. don't hate me, don't kill me :D

lussi · May 23, 2006, 12:53pm

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Wrong placed to ask in my opinion. I think half of the guppans wouldn't be here if guys were willing to hit on them.

danial · May 23, 2006, 12:54pm

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dayyyyyyyyyyyyyum,

"grabs popcorn."

Ira · May 23, 2006, 3:12pm

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Lol, some of the comments by guys here are so high-schoolish, its quite amusing.

nia_khan · May 23, 2006, 3:19pm

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how can i be his age - he was dad’s friend back in school i wasn’t even born then

man is nut case – not stupid

nia_khan · May 23, 2006, 3:22pm

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Larki-NY:

One time a colleague of mine was becoming my quiet admirer and one time he told me, he enjoys talking to me since his wife is so dumb, he can’t engage with her on an intellectual level (later on I found out she graduated from a school where you need very very good grades to get in, and I could not get in, in that very school for my grades weren’t that great). So this fellow finds his wife lacking intellect while he himself could not even graduate! One day his wife called me after tracing my number somehow and said, look I am not blaming you bcoz I know am not getting along with my husband, but I can tell for sure, he cares a whole lot about you since he mentions you almost everyday!

I said, am glad you know am not involved but being a woman I can understand your position, so am all with you. Tell me how do you want to handle this. She gave me a plan and I told this fellow that I need to talk to him on a serious note, which can be unpleasant and rude. If he cares, meet me this place, this time for a cup of coffee. Sure enough, he agreed, and when he arrived, his wife showed up too, as planned He was so embarrassed and sheepish, smiling from ear to ear. Then he goes, what you girls think you’d outsmart me. I knew your plan all along and I could tell you had been putting ideas into my wife’s head. I said to him, Mr. ---- pls. take very good care of this special lady. If you can’t, let me know for my brother had already asked me where had I been hiding this beautiful friend of mine (she had 3 ft long jet black hair, moti ankhein, pretty smile, slim and smart) and also she’s in love with my mother already so she has a loving mother-in-law (to be) and a potential rishta ready at her door. You mess up one more time and you’d loose big time. He changed a whole lot and started respecting his wife, including his mother, both used to treat that pretty girl like crap. She became my best friend

thats my type of a friend… very nice…

i really like you larki-ny

_tabussum · May 23, 2006, 3:45pm

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Yep, My cousin. He was after me big time when he had seen me at a wedding after a very long time.
I kept telling him I loved my husband and we were very happy together and eventually after a few months he got the message and stopped calling me, thank god.

skhan · May 23, 2006, 3:56pm

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No MehnazQ my comment was not directed at you, on the contrary you are being honest.

Lussi

mulz · May 23, 2006, 4:02pm

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I am sorry for the confusion but what I meant was that maybe you look mature than you age.. some ppl look as much as 15-20 years older than their biological age due to being fat, double chin, dark circles under eyes, balding head, sagging skin due to various reasons etc.. examples are cricket captain Younis Khan(he doesnt look 28 at all but an easy 44 yr old), Shahid Afridi (he doesnt look 25), Sonia Gandhi and most of the goras- all goras age fast. My boss looks 50+ but one day I saw his driver license and he’s freaking 37!! I didn’t believe my eyes and asked him and he was embarrased.. I am sure you look mature than your age..