Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
yup, i rejected the proposals of 3 cousins.
One's family has broken contact with us, bas sirf salam dua hai. The boy has even moved out, works in lahore now. There are many reasons.
The 2nd one is in uk now and the 3rd one got married in october.
Wese my hubby is also a dooor ka rishtidar :D
Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
I think he's not worthy of your friendship, if he's being unfriendly towards you just because you didn't want to marry him. He's not worth it, if he stops talking to you just because of that. Sure, it hurts, but it's not your fault that you don't love him. And what's wrong with just being friends instead of lovers? If he really did love you, he would respect your decision and he wouldn't be unkind because of that. He would care more about your happiness than his own, and in that case he would say to himself something like, 'she doesn't love me, so she wouldn't be happy marrying me anyway, it's a pity for me, but I hope she'll find someone she liked and who will be a nice guy'. When you love someone, the happiness of that beloved one is more important to you than your own happiness.
My mother's first cousins (I'm the oldest amongst my first cousins on my mother's side -- my mother's cousins are closer to my age). The fact that they are her cousins is not why I didn't accept the rishta, of course. I just didn't want that kind of relationship with them. These too were the most direct and the most troubling. The others tested the waters and it wasn't a big deal.
Thanks for clearing that up for me.
^ there are different ways to handle rejection...move on, talk abt it (if u get a chance like in my situation), take some time to get over it...all of these are better thn what my cousin is doing...its been three years since, n not only he is being a jerk to me, also to my whole family.
So you had guy wrap around your finger for years till you actually found what you were looking for, and poor cousin gets dumped.
Now You want him to think what YOU want him to think. the launch sequence you started by using your charm must stop??
And he should start acting like teddy bear.
You girls are just too much.
Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
^^ i guess a cousin dumped u too :D
Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
But she was better human, she told me to move on!!
And she didn't want me to be around acting like her puppy.
She did dumped me but she had respect for me.
Yikes! But I knew you were to die for..
Don't make me blush sister :o
But she was better human, she told me to move on!! And she didn't want me to be around acting like her puppy. She did dumped me but she had respect for me.
WTF...what makes u thing i dont have respect for him, i do respect him as a cousin n as a older brother. i would tell him to move on too if he actually talked to me.
n what abt him respecting me, n my family.
two years ago my mom got in a really bad car accident...did he respect me or her eng. to check on her NO!
n as i mention before, he didn't even call to check on my brother.
respect is a two way street sweetheart.
Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
Been there, done that. He will get over it. I know it hurts to lose a brother/friend but it is what it is.
Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
something like this happend to me too...one of my guy cousins proposed to me...he took our friendship the wrong way...lol...i think it is common in guys (especially in pak) to think the girl likes them when in fact they only think of them as a friend or cousin....they dont understand guys and girls can be 'just' friends they want more..!
Re: Have u rejected a cousin for marriage???
i have rejected, i dont know why but maybe because i dont want to marry in ma family 