hate it...

[diamond321]

Re: hate it…

@nadz123

thank you. and yday, my husband was saying how musch dust there is here and how the pepsi here doesnt taste the same, anyway his mum took that as a personal insult, and started saying how people who live in the west ( ie.-hinted at ME) unka koi tareeka saleekha nahi hota, …etc…bascially we have bad upbringings etc…she thinks her kids if they do something bad, is the cause of someone else, her kids are never DIRECTLY to blame..so for eg..if her son doesnt read fajar namaz, thats MY fault, because living in the uk so long, humne bachay ko kharab kar diya…

i said to my husband i dnt mind her saying things directly to me, about ME, but if my parents are going to be insulted all the time indirectly, im going back…he didnt say anything…he said ok, if u go back, il come later, ( as in a year or 2 later, as he has family stuff and responsbilities at the mo, either way, i dont mind, i said i wont ever ask take u away from ur parents, however they are)…

now, this may sound childish to some, i know people go thru worse, however i dnt see why anyone should sit and waste their life away just because other people have worse issues…i cant stand someone being rude about my mum, his mum doesnt like our family anyway cos we are her husbands family, not hers. shes very different around her own set. id rather she just slapped me, rather than insulting where im from, and how we were brought upo..i dont read namaz, yes, my bad, however she will tell me hows its cos of my parents lack of upbringing, and how her kids are soooooo decent who have been brought up well to read namaz…i told her well actually my brother reads too, its just me that doesnt, and she said well he must read because of my son…hmmmmmmm

and the bloody maid…i burnt something yday, and she told my MIL as soon as MIL stepped thru the door…the maid bi ek cheez hai man, shes always telling my mil stuff about anything i do…

and yes, the lack of privacy,our bedroom is actually a gateway to other destinations…

nadzz many things that u have written above sounds very mean. Your MIL as a matter of fact anybody in the world don’t have a right to call your upbringing wrong or your parents wrong.We all have opinions but the way your MIL is speaking about your parents is very rude. Namaz is between you and Allah and I don’t believe that you need to give explanation to this to anyone because you will be answerable for it only to Allah.

Aur maid sey bach kay rehna I had the worst experience with maid after my marriage . They can really cause some serious fights. Better is that you don’t interact with her and don’t allow her in your room too much. Because I know that at the end of the day your MIL will trust your maid and not you and she will become the bechari.

I know it’s easier said than done but try to ignore her for a while you people have just start living together let things settle and don’t give them a chance to call you a taiz and zaban chalani wali bahu. Your husband understands , let him deal with his family. Stay calm and spend some time so that your husband can realise that you have tried your best.