a guy has been harassing my friend for over 3 months now..shes scared to tell him off or get really mad at him bcs she doesnt want to make a scene in her neighbourhood..she said she doesnt want to tell her familyy bcs she doesnt want them to think she is a weak vulnerable girl and also bcs she has relatives living with her in the house and she doesnt want them to make up stories and spread false rumours about her..what should i tell her to do?
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is she in pakistan?
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she has to put a stop to it, how she does it depends on teh severity of the harrassment, but take action, idiots get away knowing that girls get stuck in the damned if you do damned if you dont in terms of taking any action or telling someone. in such case its better to be damned if you do, and be safe than damned if you dont and be in danger
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Is there a guy in the family who she can trust and talk to? A friend maybe? He can tell this lafanga off.
A cousin of mine was getting prankcalls from some guy in Pakistan, and she got her neighbor to answer the call and yell at him. He was like, she's my wife, don't you dare bother her again. The guy never called.
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yes she is in pakistan and no there is no one she can trust. she said her relatives are nice but they are not trustworthy at all. it is not calls bcs she never gave him her cell number..it is live harrassment..he corners her..keeps demanding for her number and that she should have coffee with him..she gets scared when he comes tells him to please leave her alone as someone will see..but he does not take no for an answer..she is very sweet not the type of person to tell anyone off and she gets scared very fast
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It happens a lot in Pakistan that a girl who refuses to talk to the guy, he then threatens to kidnap or throw acid on her.. my blood boils hearing that, she needs to trust her family members and talk about it .. so they can go to his house and speak to his parents or do major baysti of some sort.
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what ever he is asking her to do will also bring shame to her family, so its better to tell the family, throw away cell phone, start recording his conversations, and if ask her to buy a German shepherd.
usually leechar-lafangay use recorded conversations or photo-manipulated to blackmail the girls. and if these things dont work they start giving kidnapping threats.
ps. ask her to recite Dua-e-safar when ever she goes out.
ps2. its better to bring in someone who is cool minded.
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This is why girls should not be sweet.
They should face society with a brute force that would scare even Shaitaan himself.
Guys don't mess with girls like that.
Anyhoo, she just needs to stay clear of him, avoid situations where she may be alone, and speak to her parents about it. Under no circumstances should she be alone anywhere. Clearly she is alone at times, because he approaches her in person. She needs to take refuge in her family, even though she may not like all of them, because that's all she has. The police in Pakistan do nothing for these sorts of things. Other neighborhood folks will turn on her and blame her for enticing the guy. Extended family will just gossip. She needs to turn to her parents.
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Someone should tell his parents to reign in their *****.
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If this is in Pakistan then she needs to get someone involved from her family.
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She needs to tell someone, she apparently cant handle him alone, and that fu*** wont leave her alone. Better tell her mother, she will figure out something.
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yes I agree with everyone here , before this harassment gets any further , she should better involve one or both of her parents ... doesnt mean that the relatives have to get to know the whole thing , I am sure the parents would be wise enough to know this ... therefore she should trust her parents .... tell her one very important thing , if god forbid anything bad happens to her , or her father gets to hear of this incident from outside , then they wont trust her , even if she says she is innocent!
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This is no way your friends fault. She shud just str8 up tell someone. Or if he ever corners her again, Kick him where it hurts! This is how guys take advantage of the sweet little girls that are too shy to do anything, And unfortunetly blackmail etc happens. PLEASE please tell your friend to do something, Because God forbid anything could happen with this stalking pyscho around. Scream so loud so he will get frighten'd, Run inside your house and scream and then tell her to tell her dad! How can anyone make rumours if she does that? Its not her fault and she shudnt be forced to to think that because of some weirdo!!
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Its not your friend's fault and she should tell her parents. All jerks like this guy take advantage of this physiological problem where victim is reluctant to even call for help.
She should just tell her parents. If he keeps doing what he's doing, I'd say it's bound to come out in the open. If she won't tell her parents, they'll hear about it from someone else. As Chicken Biryani pointed out, her parents would be much less trusting of her if they hear about it from someone else.
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its ont that easy for her to avoid situation where she is alone..she has to got ot the market and shopping for her mom herself bcs her mom has an ankle problem adn she doesnt want ot ask her relatives for a ride bcs they already make faces and get annoyed at them when they take them soemwhere where they are already gogin..like when there was a shadi and she went with them after that they say really rude stuff like we give her free rides in our car what does she think she is..she ahs to go to and come from university by bus by herself casue they dont have a car yet..
i feel sorry for her i dont know what to say i understand why she desont want to tell anyone..her relatives are nice to her but she says they have a history of doing bad stuff like once badnaaming a girl and trying to tstop her marriage..
..now the guy has befreiended the servant in thier home bcs they are from the same place and speak the same langugage..but the sevant never said anyhting and she afraid tot ask him anything but she thinks he knows stuff bcs ever since hte servant boy came the guy now knows exactly when she goes ont he roof to chill and that is shen he stand s outside of her shouse and smiles and circles the street and he also foudn out that they have kabootars bcs he asked her if she likes kabootars
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Why doesn't the family make the servant go out and run the errands, so she doesn't have to deal with this guy?
Or what about her father? Can he accompany her to her errands?
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its not their servant..it s the servant of the family who has rented the other portion of hte house..
her dad is out of the country..
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Harrasment is no joking matter...you can't let her ignore this....she has to have some sorta family there that she can trust...or a guy cousin or brother...that can go scare the crap out of that retard!!
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get family involved as soon as possible, i rumours start so be it but its better than having a serious problem and then ppl will have a lot more to say. These SOB should be frikking hung upside down and tortured to the point that their future generations respect every single women on planet earth. UKP.