Re: HaqMehar
^ Poor girl (if she was in on all hte disputes)..
Well, it depends on where the girl was. If she was in Pakistan, we all know that most girls there have not much say in such decisions (neither do some boys). However, if she was abroad, she could've intervened and reminded them that Haq Mehar is strictly between the bride and the groom. Groom gives it and Bride spends it (wherever she wants, regardless of where others want her to spend the money).
I must say that even in some families in US, children aren't allowed to speak when such matters are being discussed. It's really sad though.