Re: Mehr. Serious question.
And yes, I agree this should be between the bride and the groom ONLY.
I'm an only child so my mother is ALWAYS in my face and wants to know everything about everything. I don't want even my mom to get involved in this issue now.
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
Arghhhhhhhhhh .. stop cutting and pasting folks .. let me asnwer in 3 points
Meher is divided in 2 parts, Mu'ajjal and Mowajjal. Both should be announced on Nikah form.
Mu'ajjal needs to be given ASAP, but wife can forgive it. Mowajjal needs to be given in case of divorce and is mandatory (only if divorce happens).
Amount of Mowajjal needs to be set in such a way that Divorced girl can maintain the same/similar lifestyle for 9 months to one year .. this is not a set rule but a good advice that scholars give. This is for girls security.
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
^ Thanks for that TLK. I thought you choose which one you want...the one that is given upfront or the divorce one. My fiance and I agreed to do the one that is given upfront but now I have to ask for the one that is given on divorce as well. I'm assuming the one that is given on divorce should be higher (Mowajjal) if it means she should be able to maintain the same lifestyle for 9 months to a year.
What complicates things though, is the lifestyle I enjoy, would be a result of my earnings and his earnings combined. Does that mean what he gives me should be his 9 months salary + my 9 months salary or ONLY his 9 months salary?
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
Without over splurging, whatever lifestyle he was providing you, means whatever was his contribution into your lifestyle ...
see if you are from rich family but the guy is from poor family, its not fair on him to expect to match your lifestyle and support that. On the other hand, if the girl is from poor and guy is rich, guy should give so much that she should be able to maintain the same life which she had when she was living with him.
again, this is not a ruling, just a suggestion.
Just a brotherly suggestion, Mowajjal part is your right, just in case of divorce. Have that written in the form. This part is more important than the Mu'ajjal one. Mu'ajjal one is just a gift as a token of appreciation for you coming into his life. Mowajjal one is a fine on him for letting you go on your own.
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
^ TLK is Mowajjal and Mu'ajjal from a specific school of thought?
I have seen Nikah contracts here in Canada and none of them differentiate between the two....the Nikah just states one amount as Mehr. And these Nikah contracts are from Isna Canada so I am kinda lost....
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
when it comes to haq mehar "girls shud settle for less bcoz they always see the comfort of there husbands or they shud decide it mutully!!!but when it comes to jehaz girls never see the comfort level of there parents n take wid them everything their husbands n inlaws demands for n there is no mutual understanding no respects for girls when settling for jehaz....if lessss haq mahr adds barkat in nikkah then the jehazzz takes it away...v girls asks for only 3months salary or from islamic haq mahr only 10000 where boys or ur husbands to be takes away all the life saving of ur poor old parents????whyyy???girls shud ask for haq mahr as much as their husbands n inlaws ask for jehaz THERE IS NO NEED TO FEEL PITY FOR UR HUSBANDS N V SHUD ALL KNOW ABT OUR ISLAMIC RITES.OK
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
^alhumdulillah my in laws said no jehez and we agreed to whatever mehr my fiance stated, so hopefully if the families work together on this, it shouldnt be a problem.
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
haven't read the whole thing........... but according to what i know... and seen in my commmunity........The Haq Mehr is equal to the sum of groom's six month's salary!!....... so depending on that he earns........ times by six. whatever comes out is haq mehr!!
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
Tariq is correct.
The 9 month rule of thumb is set so that if she is pregnant at the time she has ample opportunity and finances to give birth and care for herself before getting on her own feet.
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
^^^^ but the guy can't divorce if the wife is preggy!!!
Haq Mehr - Just a formality?
Hi guys I wanted to ask whether Haq Mehr is just a formality required for nikah or does Islam gives it significance in the life of a woman. And if it has a significance, keeping that in mind, how much haq mehr is practical nowadays?