Re: Haq Meher & Nikkah Nama
Now you do :D
There is a Mu'ajjal part and there is a Mu'wajjal part.
First one needs to be paid ASAP, but bride can forgive that part
Second one needs to paid in case of Divorce and islamically, that is dulhan's right and husband is a sinner if he does not pay that.
** There is no such thing as Shara'i Meher**. The amount should be in line with bride's current life style (pre-marriage life style) and Grooms abilty to pay it, in case.
Right on the Money.....TLK...............:biggthumb
In 2006, I was told by that Imam that it’s $1,200. Luckily I had $2,400 on me in case she asked for it 
but she didn’t, she waived it.
I agree. However, the imam dude said that the sharaa’ee mehar is $1,200 
Those that are saying that that the bride must get the mehar for security in case the husband dies or whatever, well that’s right but if you have your wife’s name added to your life insurance, 401K, stock benefits etc., I think she’ll be in good hands if something happens to the groom. That’s better than putting money aside that’s going to lose value as time goes on or if the wife spends that on shopping (although she can do whatever she wants with it) but you rarely see women that will save money for rainy days 
Re: Haq Meher & Nikkah Nama
Long time ago, in combined indo pak, shara;ee mehar was 32 rs and 50 paisa. That was the price of just under 7.5 tola of gold. The reasoning was so if grils gets it, she does not have to pay zakat on it..
that was just to save her from extra burden ..
(or maybe the reasoning was the other way around)
1200 dollars might be that amount now
but in reality, there is no Shara'i meher
ask Imam sahab the history and logic of Shara'i meher
I did not forgive mine even though I set it to an averagely low amount because in Islam, it's for a woman's security and her right to get haq e mahr. I think it's foolish of women to 'maaf' it because Allah swt has made it a part of a wedding so a woman can support herself for atleast some time incase anything happens, God forbid. My husband and I were only ones who sat down and decided on an amount, noone else was involved, not even our parents, we just told our wali and witness, etc later at the time of Nikkah. My husband asked me how much I wanted, and considering how much gold, etc I was going to get, I set it quite low because the purpose of haq e mahr is not to loot your husband :D Anyway so keeping in mind how much all the sets, etc were worth, I told him the amount I wanted, he thought it was a bit low so he raised it a bit and then we agreed on it. I didn't tell my husband to give me anything right away but whenever he is financially able to pay. I wanted it to be only incase of seperation but he said that according to the laws here, I would be able to claim 50 percent of whatever he has anyway.
Whoever your imam is, make sure you wali (father, or whoever) talks to them and makes sure all your haq e mahr and other info is listed on the nikkah nama.
Bilkul right! Haq mehr is not something to be taken lightly. It is your Islamic right- read up on it and know your rights and responsibilities before signing the Nikkah Nama. Make sure you get the advice of an imaan or an Islamic scholar before going over to PK to tie the knot.
Try reading 'The Muslim Woman's Handbook' by Khuda al-Khatab- it explains the issue of Haq Mehr in simple terms. x
Long time ago, in combined indo pak, shara;ee mehar was 32 rs and 50 paisa. That was the price of just under 7.5 tola of gold. The reasoning was so if grils gets it, she does not have to pay zakat on it..
that was just to save her from extra burden ..
(or maybe the reasoning was the other way around)
1200 dollars might be that amount now
but in reality, there is no Shara'i meher
ask Imam sahab the history and logic of Shara'i meher
Most Scholars will quote the Mehr amount that was determined by Rasul Allah (PBUH) for Bibi Fatima..............it amounted to Rs 120/- worth of Silver some years back, and that is considered the tradition..........but there is also a clear edict for the groom to pay what the bride considers appropriate!
Re: Haq Meher & Nikkah Nama
is not mehr-e-fatimi diffrent than Shara'i meher?
is not mehr-e-fatimi diffrent than Shara'i meher?
best of my knowledge there is no set amount per Sharia.......only the amount per Bibi Fatima's (RA) Mehr amount became the minimum amount as tradition amoung the Hanafi's................I have also seen giving as gift the Holy Quran!
best of my knowledge there is no set amount per Sharia.......only the amount per Bibi Fatima's (RA) Mehr amount became the minimum amount as tradition amoung the Hanafi's................I have also seen giving as gift the Holy Quran!
wow Holy Quran as haq meher. thts amazing.
anyways so I think I shouldnt even worry about the haq meher since there are so many variations in the amount of meher and any kind of amount is alright. I did not care about the high amount. I wanted to know what exactly Islam says and how most people do it following Islam.
I ll just let everyone else decide the amount of meher.
Re: Haq Meher & Nikkah Nama
Me and my fiance were talking about it other day and he didnt know anything about it, I explained to him and he said he would be okay with whatever amount I want, I dnt think I would go over the top and set thousands of pounds keeping in mind I will be getting gold aswell
umm...so to the married girls, what did you do with your haq meher? totally forgot about this concept
wow Holy Quran as haq meher. thts amazing.
anyways so I think I shouldnt even worry about the haq meher since there are so many variations in the amount of meher and any kind of amount is alright. I did not care about the high amount. I wanted to know what exactly Islam says and how most people do it following Islam. I ll just let everyone else decide the amount of meher.
:)...Like they say....."Holy Quran".....it is a gift that keeps on Giving......:biggthumb
Sister I must say that you have a very relaxed attitude about this matter.....
that is a blessing..Alhumdu Lillah.
:)...Like they say....."Holy Quran".....it is a gift that keeps on Giving......:biggthumb
Sister I must say that you have a very relaxed attitude about this matter..... that is a blessing..Alhumdu Lillah.
Thanks. why make it an issue on nikkah since in islam we can have any amount. we should let our olders decide after they negotiate with each other.
Thanks. why make it an issue on nikkah since in islam we can have any amount. we should let our olders decide after they negotiate with each other.
Each family has its own way of doing things. It's not a problem if you want to let his and your family reach a final number, however, it is really for the groom (and you) to decide how much he can afford to give you. Others should stay out of it. In most cases, fights/issues take place when elders start to talk about this amount as the girl's side wants it as high as possible but the boy's side wants to set it as low as possible. Of course there are exceptions but I am speaking in general. But if your and his family won't argue over it, then it's best that the elders decide on it.
Each family has its own way of doing things. It's not a problem if you want to let his and your family reach a final number, however, it is really for the groom (and you) to decide how much he can afford to give you. Others should stay out of it. In most cases, fights/issues take place when elders start to talk about this amount as the girl's side wants it as high as possible but the boy's side wants to set it as low as possible. Of course there are exceptions but I am speaking in general. But if your and his family won't argue over it, then it's best that the elders decide on it.
it would have been better than anything else if only both of us could decide the amount. In my situation its totally an aranged marraige and we both are not communicating with each other (no arguments on that). I have to leave it on my family since I cant discuss it with him. and my family is really concerned about making no issues on haq meher. they are ok with any amount. :)
Re: Haq Meher & Nikkah Nama
A scholar that was here for the conference mentioned that the mahr is these days minimum $15. This is the bare minimum… Obviously there are rare cases where this amount cannot be reached but 99% of cases in the western countries can afford this. Also, one should give by looking at his wealth, if one is wealthy he is encourage to give more, not a condition though.
edit: just to add, the amount that he said in grams was: 30.618grams of silver…convert it into whichever currency you like and you have your minimum dowry amount.
here is the article written by the Shaykh: http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=12&ID=3682&CATE=158
Re: Haq Meher & Nikkah Nama
can anyone tell me what is the difference between Mau'ajal & Ghair mau'ajal haq mehar? I think mau'ajal is the one which is paid right after nikkah, while ghair mau'ajal shouldbe paid after wedding whenever the husband afford to pay it. but i'm confused if its the amount of money that is paid after divorce? which one is true ,the 1st or the 2nd one?
Mehr. Serious question.
How do you calculate the amount of mehr your husband is supposed to give you? Is there some sort of a formula? Some people say that it should be 3 months worth of the boy's salary? I don't know, everyone is telling me different things, so I want to be clear on this so I know what to ask for. Also, I heard mehr is compulsory in Islam so it HAS to be given...I just need to know what the correct way to calculate how much should be given. Thanks!
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
it's compulsory to be written in the wedding contract, but no, not compulsory to be given, unless of course, you want it, in which case, he HAS to give it to you.
Re: Mehr. Serious question.
Hina, its compulsory to give mehr as soon as possible... As some ppl get 1lakh written and stuff but never give the amount to the bride..
I guess mehr is what ever the groom can afford, e.g Rs.10..... cz the amount should be given straight away in front of few witnesses,,,obviously nowadays they don't give out on the stage at func... it can be given at home, infront of parents, sis, bro's......