Re: Mehr. Serious question.
^ same is followed in my family . whether a girl or boy got married the haq mehar was never discused and the girl usually forgave her mehar. In my inlaws the normal haq mehar given and taken was 6-7 time of what I was given. I wanted to forgive my mehar but my fiance (now husband) insisted on giving me mehar (which he gave me in full when i came home after rukhsati) but i knew he was in financial trouble so me and my family insisted on minimum islamic haq mehar.
many families (guy's side) let the girl's side fix a high amount of haq mehar and never give it to her. it's only verbal but it's wrong the haq mehar (maujal) shd be given immediately after nikkah and ghair maujal whenever the girl demands.