Re: haq meher
no one mentioned anything about mu'wajjal being owed in the case of divorce. they told us that is up to me to decide when i want my hubby to pay it and that i should let him know as soon as possible.
Mu'ajjal can be forgiven and can be delayed (as you are doing it). Mu'wajjal has its own fixed time and is only due when divorce happens otherwise its not due. You cannot demand Mu'wajjal whenever you want to, its condition specific. But Mu'wajjal is oblogatory and needs to be determined ahead of time. At least this is my understanding.