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What I remember from surat e nisa that there isn't any fix formula, basically a girl can ask for anything, if a guy cannot afford what she has asked for then it will be a loan on him till he is able to afford/pay whatever wife has asked.
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yeah .. same way as there is no riwaaj and formula for engagement ring either :-)
so again, whats a *good *formula?
back in highschool days, somone agreed upon tub of baskin'n robins.. errr...
call me kanjoos but i was happy on being relieved sastaa
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Can someone please explain what exactly is Haq Mehar and what is its purpose? I thought it was something that is not given much importance today?
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confused, it really depends on the girl and her side to what they ask for haq meher. I have heard all kinds of ranges from 500 to 30,000 USD. Some guys will also say the girl can keep the jewelery too (yep the engagement ring you are talking about).
Ambar, haq mehar is a woman’s right to ask for at the time of the nikah. I am not sure how important or unimportant it is for people these days since i havent attended a lot of weddings but i am sure it varies from couple to couple. I found a very good link that explains haq mehar very well. For your pleasure:
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Thanks Ira :)
I always thought Haq Meher has to be certain amount of money? Can it be a gift as well then? Cos the Imam mentions it in the nikkah when he asks the boy doesn't he?
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i think my mum's was symbolic, 20 rupees...
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i think meinay maaf ker dia tha 
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My mom's was also "symbolic" for what was common at the time but it really is the girl's choice. My husband asked me directly what i wanted it to be, without involving our parents. Haq mehar is also listed on the nikah certificate since its basically a contract and should list out important points as such. The link i provided is very good in terms of explaining the idea behind it.
I think most girls dont know their rights going into the marriage. I, for once didnt know that the girl can opt to have the right to divorce (khulaa) be to her and not her husband, at the time of the nikah. Its also listed on the nikah certificate. May Allah forbid if someone has to use this right but i think women should know that its there.
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That’s the best to be remembered for life.
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Wow, i did not know that - is that really true?? How interesting! How come things like this aren’t common knowledge? Women’s rights in Islam are never made clear, while men’s rights are completely blown out of proportion. Women should be told these things before they go into a marriage, I mean something like this could be so crucial for some women - especially the poor women who marry these idiot men who threaten divorce or another “marriage” at every given opportunity 
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I'm not suer if this is being nosy or rude or insensitive (really dont mean it to be!), but I'm just curious, what did you guys do with yours?
Shopping.
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^ Shopping for what?
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Yeah and if you ever bring it up in front of parents, prepare to get yelled at, cursed at, verbally abused etc because u dared to ask abt it.. 
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^ Shopping for what?
I had 25 thousand pakistani rupees......... burnt it all in one weak on clothes, shoes and electronics.
I wasn't very wise in spending then.
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but hey, you got stuff out of it! :)
as for women's rights, i did not know that! i thought meher was the amount your hubby has to give you if you get divorced. after that, you have no right to ask for anything. thankfully, canadian divorce laws accord 50% of everything to the woman and thanks to child support payments, if God forbid, you're in that situation, you'll clean up really well with or without the meher! :p
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^so you didn't get any mehar?
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i thought it was paid out post divorce too... not according to that site... my in laws give £20,000, i'm not accepting mine.... i'll just get him in the pre-nup $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$£££££££££££££££££££££!! ha ha..... before some of you get on your high horse about my comment about the pre-nup... calm yourseleves right down, it's a joke, you know hahaha?!!
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^so you didn't get any mehar?
not married yet, hon... august IA. i think we'll just negotiate a symbolic meher.
LJ, 20 grand??? woman, there is a roadtrip in there for you and me! fly me over! we'll do europe in style with the other UK girls :p
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dude, that is harsh! why would your parents respond like that? 
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I wasn't very wise in spending then.
Yeah , you seem very conservative in all aspects of life, so this does not sound like you at all! How long ago did you get married?