What is the “fashionable” amount these days? Like in our parents’ (or atleast during mine) time, it was the 32 or 33 rupees or something wierd like that.
All the married ladies here, what did you do with the haq mehar? Of if you are a husband, what did your wife do with it?
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someone claimed that the rule of thumb is that it should be two times the guy's annual salary.
when i got married I was just out of school and was not going to join my company for a month, so I guess haq meher from me should have been zero, or negatives since only cash flow happening then was my debt payments :D
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qabool hai.. jo bhi dey do chale ga.. no demands :D
waise, did I tell you about the grl whose haq mehr was $40,000?? I bet her husband would think twice or thrice before telling her not to go shopping ;)
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great topic....
I'm going to wait for some more thoughts before I post mine....
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It depends on what you want to do with it. Do you want it or is it going to be a paper deal. For a paper deal go as high as you can 
But if you want it in your hand after Shadi, go for something that he can afford. I have heard of Haq Mahrs as high as $500 K to as low as $3 K.
Ah, I remember I opened a thread on this.
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only if that has been paid off to them(women) yet or no...anyways
mine was Shara'ee ...and pardon him that as well
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A lot of women waive their right and let it go instead of taking it. A reasonable amount would be todays equivalent of the shara'ee amount.
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can u go shopping with it? i mean can u take the money and shop it away its yours to keep right?
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Oh I forgot to mention, my wife says, she is keeping a book and based on inflation and interest rates she adjusts the money I owe her on a yearly basis. 
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lol, thats one smart wife AJ. The sooner you pay up the better off you'll be, take the hint.
Sweets yes it is urs to keep and spend as you wish.
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You can do whatever you want to do with that money. you can even return it to your hubby so that he can buy HDTV 
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Mine was 5k. My dad and family friends came up with this amount, I don't know how. Hubby did not like it but went with flow. He gave it to me and I put it down for my car payment.
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There is no "shariah" amount for the mahr. It can be any amount, and should be enough money to "protect" a woman in the event of divorce or her husband's death. I have noticed that there is a lot of pressure in Pakistan on girls to keep this amount small, or forgive it after marriage. On the other hand the girl is expected to bring a large dowry along with her.
I received a small reasonable amount on the day of our nikkah, and will receive a larger amount in the event of his death or our divorce.
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Aaa, there is a pressure to keep haq mehar low? Never heard that before. Yeah bringing large dowry used to be the thing. But if you import your bride from Pakistan, the only thing she can bring is her kapray, which almost are never enough. :D
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I am not very informed about the shariah amount perspective if any of haq meher. Since i didnt want this discussion in the religious corner, i didnt ask for it here. But that is something i need to look into just for personal info.
Waisay AJ has a very smart wife. I like the method of yearly payments rather than one large chunk which may be too big to be ever paid :D
I am just curious as to what can be a big or a small amount for various people. And what do women generally do with it. Raima had a good idea by paying it towards a car payment. Is this gift really to be used for the wife in event of her husband's death or is it just a "gift"?
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:) - In my husband's family the poor bahus barely had a chance to get through the door before my eldest sister in law was trying to get them to forgive the mahr.
In the weddings I've been to recently in Pakistan they were "displaying" the things that the girl brought at a special dinner at their house. It was disgusting. They showed off the leather sofa, tvs, refrigerator, some pots and pans, and a set of luggage. Supposedly the brides family had also given quite a bit of cash and a set of bedroom furniture. It seemed rather excessive.
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there is no set amount for mehr however it should be set within the grooms financial means..if he cannot afford to give money as mahr he can give you something as simple as a Quran or teach you a new surah...it is something that is decided between you (or ur family) and your soon to be husband.
once again it should be within his means and nothing outrageous..unfortunately many Muslims dont abide by that rule. he should not have to get a loan for it and/or go into debt for it. This is the Islamic way!
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In the weddings I've been to recently in Pakistan they were "displaying" the things that the girl brought at a special dinner at their house. It was disgusting. They showed off the leather sofa, tvs, refrigerator, some pots and pans, and a set of luggage. Supposedly the brides family had also given quite a bit of cash and a set of bedroom furniture. It seemed rather excessive.
this is not mehr...this is called "jahez" which has nothing to do with Islam..it's cultural...dont get the 2 confused.
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Amana, was that family trying to buy the groom with all that excessive jahaiz?
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Down payment towards a house is an economically sound investment. Make sure your name is on the title.