So, a few days ago I was reading about the Haq-Mahar which you have to pay your whife…I was reading and found it very interesting, but then I read the point:
“A Woman has the right to receive first her Haq-Mahar and then she can allow having sexual contact”…
So imagine, you are living in pakistan and you get 1000 Rupees a month (and you have to pay 6000 or even 12000 rupees; some people decide to pay 12-month-payment)
From this point, the man can have sexual contact only after 3 or 4 months, cause he is not able to pay it straigt away…This theory may be weird, but this can happen…
Since those days I asky myself:
Am I buying a life-partner or what the heck is that?
Ya but where the heck does it happen in Pakistan? Poor woman can't even refuse sexual contact first few days forget about asking Haq-maher and waiting for months....infact they are forced to bring furtniture and jewelery with them.
Can you please give the source of that quotation. Is that from a cultural point of view or from a religious point of view? The reason i'm asking for clarification is because there are a thousand and one users on Gupshup who are always ready to take quotations like these and twist them around in some wierd manner to ridicule Islam.
Yes a man must pay his wife her haq meher, it’s her haq But in our culture cmonnnn.. bechari is pressured to “maaf kardo” so she won’t look greedy.. yet shes expected to bring a brand new house, furniture, kapray etc with her
Please keep your prejudices in your pocket, I am not blaming Islam Mr. Lota...We have a mag here called "Nuur fur Frauen", translated it means "Nuur for womens"
It´s a Muslim-Mag which is brought in public every 3 month in Germany.
Another reason not to marry. To be honest, I would´ve tried to pay the Haq-Mahar as soon as possible, but this one is too much for me. I have no problem living my whole life alone (as I am not addicted to sex and a personal relationship), even if I become a non-muslim in our Prophet´s eye (saw). So shall it be Ameen
And for your girls, let yourself get married with a 50 years-"young" moron for whom you´ll be only a sex-slave and nothing more.
First of all you are totally twisted minded person by the way you have portrayed so far. Sorry had to mention the obvious.
Secondly, Mahar is not the reason why a woman marries so don’t get confused withanything else with your low class thinking.
Why can’t you say about yourself why you do not want to marry. Instead you brought the example of a man who earns 1000 rupees only.
Mahar is not just a monitory thing it can be a nice gift. It needs to be set according to the income level of the person.
Why would a man even want to mary and start a family if he cannottake care of the wife?
Wife also can earn money and perfectly allowed in Islam and Pakistani society if needed. We are not talking about illiterate people here. That should not be considered norm.
So lets be real and read true islamic books or ask an Aaalim. We do not know how it was written in ‘Mag’ and how you took it but quit reading side-books and magazines and qouting whats written in it. Its not islam’s fault if you get your information from magazines etc.
…And quit making excuses for not marrying.
For some reason it has become a ‘fasion’ for people to be champions of women’s rights and getting attentions of women. Why talk about women’s rights or your inadequacies that you cannot even take care of one woman in your entire life ?
There are so many good women who can and will mary you if you look around…with no need of a mahar. Just be a man my friend.
u must be getting a lot of money from the germany government for equating **** & islam in your mag. i feel sorry for the woman who read ur mag for the nuur that can only comes out of a donkey’s rear.
Please don´t assume me thing which aren´t right. What you know about me and if I am able to pay Haq-Mahar or not? Or if I can take care of a woman or not for my entire life!?!!! And who ar you to judge about my thinking? you high-classer! For the twisted mind thing, I was twisted, but know not anymore, because of your sweet answers ;)
And Black-Jack-Sensei:
How much money do you get from your government/mullah to kill innocent Ahmadi-Muslims?
I know alot of couples who recently got married are quite well stabled. They earned arround 6,000-7,000 US dollors every month, but they only set the haq meher close to 10,000 usd. And they none of them paid the money right away... some did it after 2 years and some are giving little bit of money each month because they cant pay in full.
I dont think any girl is that greedy who would refuse to have any intimacy with her husband without getting the money first. I am sure you are right about their right in islam but i dont think anyone will ever do it nor i heard anyone ever did....
With buying a girl I didn´t touch anyone´s toe. It´s not low class thinking my dear. I don´t worry about Haq-Mahar as I said before that I would´ve tried to pay the Haq-Mahar as soon as possible.
So why should I admit that I can´t support a woman? Why the heck? I was wrong in saying I am not marrying.
So I´ve decided not to touch her as long as I haven´t payed the Haq-Mahar. She´ll be happy and I´ll be happy. That´s the point.
Damn it. I am not worrying about the amount of the Haq-Mahar. Even if the Haq-Mahar was 300 Billion €/$ I would pay it. Allah wants me to pay Haq-Mahar. So shall it be Ameen
If you are not marrying thats not my problem but your post had different tone before as I mentioned earlier. You started out bashing Islamic value and were willing to be called non-muslim even if it was in the eyes of the prophet (PBUH).
Just be thoughtful when you say things like that or be ready to get counter argument.
But in our culture cmonnnn.. bechari is pressured to “maaf kardo” so she won’t look greedy.. yet shes expected to bring a brand new house, furniture, kapray etc with her 
