right.. but what exactly is the purpose of the hijab... .???
seeker
Could you tell me what your definition of a boyfriend is? As passionate said, wearing a hijab doesn't necessarily mean you are the most pious, you pray five times a day, etc. Hijab for most teaches self discipine and self control, and most of the time leads to a more practiced muslim way of life.
In todays society, both genders do intermingle and it's not uncommon obviously. Now isn't it possible that those hijabi girls could have been seen talking or communicating with those boys for marriage purposes. Of couse that communication comes with limitations and the right niyyat. So couldn't your observations be only subjective?
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its a sin in Islam PA, check your moulana's expiry :)
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well he's on a permanet leave of absence so I used my own brain instead and .. well.. no sin.
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seeker
Could you tell me what your definition of a boyfriend is? As passionate said, wearing a hijab doesn't necessarily mean you are the most pious, you pray five times a day, etc. Hijab for most teaches self discipine and self control, and most of the time leads to a more practiced muslim way of life.
In todays society, both genders do intermingle and it's not uncommon obviously. Now isn't it possible that those hijabi girls could have been seen talking or communicating with those boys for marriage purposes. Of couse that communication comes with limitations and the right niyyat. So couldn't your observations be only subjective?
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I agree with you :)
with "BF" you can mean alot of things....depends on what u mean by it
- all five fingers r not same*
I am not sure I am necessarily following all this politically correct mumbo jumbo about hijab representing this or that.
Can someone please clarify in simple terms, what does (or does not) hijab symbolizes, if anything?
I mean, in simple everyday life, if I see two girls, one wearing hijab and loose-fitted clothes, and the other with open-hair and skin tight jeans etc... should I not be able to make some preliminary opinions in my mind about these two and what kind of morals and life-styles the two follow, or is it politically incorrect to do so?
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i agree Faisal bhai, i think, with some exceptions, one can generally make some conclusions from someone’s appearance and dressing style…
shouldn't we look at ourselves.......?????
well.....hijaab wearing females shouldn't have boy friends.....ok
BUT
what is your opinion about a muslim girl(without hijaab)
having boy friend
is it ok for her.....????
the point is ......no sin is minor......n what do you think.......are we all doing everything right what a muslim is supposed to do......?????
you hear too often that islam is the fastest growing religion in the world ........!!!!
fine.....but i say its just like quantity is increasing n quality is decreasing ........coz we all are busy poking our noses in someone else's business........nobody evaluates his /her own deeds
thats why we can see where we are heading as muslims..........!!!!!
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seeker
Could you tell me what your definition of a boyfriend is? As passionate said, wearing a hijab doesn't necessarily mean you are the most pious, you pray five times a day, etc. Hijab for most teaches self discipine and self control, and most of the time leads to a more practiced muslim way of life.
In todays society, both genders do intermingle and it's not uncommon obviously. Now isn't it possible that those hijabi girls could have been seen talking or communicating with those boys for marriage purposes. Of couse that communication comes with limitations and the right niyyat. So couldn't your observations be only subjective?
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definition of boyfriend? Well that ranges from having physical relationships to just companionship. Can you please further expand upon as to how hijab teaches self discipline & self control?
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I see it all the time especially within the Pakistani community. Girls act all pious and religious in front of their parents and elders wear the hijab and act very obedient. Once they get outside the home and onto campus, they become buck wild. It's one extreme to the other.
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I can see hijab being used that way. I have talked with numerous people and whenever they hear of a girl wearing hijab they immediately form a stereotype of her being "pious", which of course could be absolutely correct. So I guess the psyche behind wearing hijab could also be linked to the need for being complimented and especially after 9/11 when it has become more arduous to do so.
nahee naaa irem…i’ve just let too many hijabi women pass by…
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I am not sure I am necessarily following all this politically correct mumbo jumbo about hijab representing this or that.
Can someone please clarify in simple terms, what does (or does not) hijab symbolizes, if anything?
I mean, in simple everyday life, if I see two girls, one wearing hijab and loose-fitted clothes, and the other with open-hair and skin tight jeans etc... should I not be able to make some preliminary opinions in my mind about these two and what kind of morals and life-styles the two follow, or is it politically incorrect to do so?
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yes faisal, hijab definitely has negative or positive connotations attached to it, depending on which side you see it from. Non-Muslims might see it as oppression of women and we might take it as an attribute of a virtuous lady.
The fact is non-hijab wearing girls are stereotyped as being skanky when it in a lot of cases. i.e. me, it is quite the opposite. Put a hijab wearing girl next to a non-hijab wearing girl. It will automatically be assumed that the girl wearing a headscarf is pious and modest when that is not always necessarily the case. No one will assume or come to accept that the girl in a scarf has a boyfriend and shags about! In fact, that notion will always be applied towards the girl who isn't wearing a scarf. She will be the one who is assumed to have a boyfriend.
Someone who colours her hair and doesn't cover it up is labelled as being 'awara' and unislamic when compared to girl who wears a hijab. Yet, it's the girls in hijabs (again,not all) who are going buck wild when they leave their homes and are away from the scrutiny of their parents. In these cases, I find that the girls wear a hijab not out of choice, but out of necessity. There is a huge difference.
I have a lot of respect for girls who willingly choose to wear a hijab. More power to you! However, the ones who are being forced to wear it by their family/culture are the ones who are going buck wild on campus. These are the individuals who are putting on this act of being obedient and pious in front of their families and acting in the opposite manner away their families. Rarely does anyone ever question the front that is being put on by many hijab wearing girls.
Again, this does not apply to ALL hijab wearing girls.
all those who r syain who r we to judge n we should look at ourselves.. the point is when it gets down to it.. we all make quick judgements about others whether we want to admit it or not.. an mehnaz is right.. a girl wearin a hijab is seen more pious to the girl not wearin the hijab.. our brain makes an automated correlation to the hijab as belongin to some1 pious.. and we can sit here and differenciate between the term boyfriend or we can say lets not be judgemental an hyprocritical.. because the point is we do make judgement an any kind of a relationship with a man (not ur father/brother) before marriage is wrong..... so lets not discuss whether its right or wrong to have a boyfriend by discussing the decree of the relationship.. when it comes down to it.. yea.. we intermingle with the opp sexes.. its inevitable not to end up not even lookin.. there r ppl who that im sure.. but the majority muslim ummah doesnt.. so i odnt think theres any point in justifying havin a relationship.. its wrong but it happens ... Islam se hath ker hi hai.. and we do make judgemnts.. so its pointless to say lets not.. all im sayin is that i truly do believe some wear a hijab for religious reasons an some for a fashion statment.. an those who wear it for a fashion statment shouldnt wear it at all.. because covering our head is a symbol of our religion an it serves a purpose and those who do not understand our religion are confused by the actual purpose an the meaning of hijab in our islam.. and when the hijab is not worn for serving the purpose of islam.. then why do it at all... done give the wrong image of the religion for ur own personal statment.. that ticks me off..
Seeker- indeed, keep your boyfriend in hijab. It is good.
It cud b that they are forced to wear Hijab due to family pressure etc.
Wearing Hijab most certainly shouldn't be a benchmark of how pious or saintly someone is. Its all in the attitude that counts. Material things count only to a certain extent.
seeker, i do wear a scarf..but this question is not applicable for me..
by meeting people from different backgrounds..i would like to tell you that everyone wears hijab for different reason..for some its part of religion..for some its part of culture, some wear it as a fashion trend, some wear it to feel comfortable, for some its a dress code, for some its forced, for some its security..it could be anything.
so, once you know why someone wears it..it will be much easier for you to understand where they are coming from..
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most ppl (mostly Turkish/Marocish girls here in Holland) wear hijaab cuz otherwise they'll get beat up at home by their Daddie
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most ppl (mostly Turkish/Marocish girls here in Holland) wear hijaab cuz otherwise they'll get beat up at home by their Daddie
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same here in denmark ..most of them are forced to do that so they wear just a peice of scarf .
Yeah there are some girls who are forced into wearing the hijab.
However I CHOSE to, on my very own! Once I went to this Islamic seminar thing and there was this convert lady speaking who was wearing the hijab and dressed very pious, that hit me. As a Muslim born, I should know better, and respect my religion, so thats how and when I began to wear the Hijab :)