[stolen from D6C’s comment in a Life1 thread, and some of my own experiences]
So how many of you parents have experienced aunties and uncles and even younger folks make comments on your kids height, weight etc.? The worst part is that they say it in a negative way in front of the kids so the kid is totally hurt ?
Things like:
“haiiiii tum inko kuch khilati nahi?”
“yeh itney kamzoor hai!”
“doctor ko dikhaya?”
“yahan kay doctors pagal haiN!”
So what are your responses in situations where total strangers seem to have more concern than you do for your own child? Is this just an annoying desi habit of poking their noses into places where it’s totally not required and giving unsolicited advice? Or are they in fact genuinely concerned for the wellbeing of your child?
I got the opposite
"Haye aap ki bachi itni moti hai, mashallah"
"aap uss ko bohot ziyada khana khilati ho?"
"aap uss ko diet pe kyun nai kartay" (when I was 8ish).
Desi aunties are never satisfied unless bachey k gaaal na latak rahey hoon aur uss kee thighs CHAD-DEEEEE main na phans rahi hoon.
Anything else is "kamzoor"
I just used to say "jeee aunty ..abhi kafi dair sai bhoka bhi hai. Fries bana deen gee aap? homemade fries hee khata hai" - Aunty normally gets BHAOOOOOOED and never rant again
my dad wanted my son to be plump... his brain would say well none of my kids were plump, dont see why my grandson should be but hsi heart wanted a golu molu chola.
i guess chubbiness is a sign of being healthy for babies.... my mom got it a whole lot with my older bro... he ate like a pig but his metabolism was super fast.. meaning he would burn whatever he ate... ppl couldnt believe his appetite and only after seeing it did they stop bothering my mom bout feeding my bro a bit more than she did... :D
my son is on the lean side too... but thankfully ppl in my social circle are observant i guess.. cuz if they do comment on how lean he is (i wont say thin :D ), they also end it with ya but look at how active he is mashallah, jo khaya woh hazum
man... if only parents knew the idea of what is healthy ... and what a healthy kid is. if only PPL knew that , for that matter, we wouldnt have obesity as a disease.
i know someone in our social circle that has a 20 yr old son .. who is HUGE... he cant fit in clothing from stores and has to have home stitched clothing and yet his mom cant say no to him eating whatever he wants... and this is an educated woman we are talking about. its sad.
My daughter is 25th percentile from birth but dotor says she is mA doing great, she is healthy eater n a friendly baby, babies on my in laws side are too big so to around them my daughter is kamzor, even tough she eats better than them, people say how lovely chubby cheeks she has but to some they are not enough... so i do hear comments like that, n my reply is Alhumdulillah she is perfect for me n hubby, we wouldn't have been able to even carry a heavy baby.
I have learned over the years that the best response to insensitivity is absolutely no response at all.
Smile, nod and try to change the subject.
And try to remember what they taught us when we were in grade school...that people who make fun or criticize are insecure and are trying to make themselves feel bigger by making you feel smaller. Don't let them get to you. Live your life well and be happy. This is healthy for you and will, as an added bonus, drive your critics up the wall. ;)
My son is in the 90th percentile for weight but also 90th for his height...so his weight his evenly distributed....Some people think he's of good health while others tell me I should feed him more...I am personally happy with his physique...babies on my side of the family are not just chubby but really chubby and weight problems linger on to adulthood....that's why I would rather have a really skinny kid than a chubby one...
but chubby cheeks do look super cute :)
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