…you meet the perfect girl (under 21, gora-chitta rang; slim figure with child-bearing hips, khamosh, educated, but will be a stay-at-home wife/mother) - generally a girl who buys into the whole husband is majazi-e-khuda bit…
She’s perfect in every way except she’s an only child who must live with her parents in their home, would you marry her and move in to her parents home?
BTW, you are one of 5 sons so no issues on your own parents care.
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How big is the parent’s home? Location? Do they have maids? Movie room? Swimming pool? How old are the parents? What is the probability of them leaving this world soon?
Would I also be ‘forced’ to use their car?
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Not a very large home - you’d have your private bedroom, but the common areas (living, dining, kitchen) would all be shared.
There is a maid, but no driver and given that the FIL can no longer drive (and neither the daughter/prospective wife nor the MIL ever learned to drive), it’s now your duty to drive everyone to where they need to go in the 2002 Toyota Corolla.
Girl’s parents are in reasonable health insofar as they have a long life expectancy.
Interested?
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Yeah, I would (not cause she’s the “perfect” girl). I’d pretty much move anywhere as long as I’m with my future wife and I’d do what I needed to so that she’s happy.
However I wouldn’t in this scenario cause she’s under 21. I would probably draw the line at 24/25..
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I would just marry her & tell her to move in my place along with your parents.
No need to become a ghar jamai.
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Thanks for bursting my bubble, Sehrysh. I thought the “perfect” girl was under 25. At 21, she wouldn’t even have finished undergrad. But what do I know! 
If she is the only child and under 21, then parents must be in their mid 50s. That means they are too young to have a need for someone to take care of them. If I am in the situation, I would put a proposal to marry and move away. Live our own life for many years. When and if her mom and dad need assistance, we’ll take care of it at that time.
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Tsk, tsk!
But don’t parents have the right to have their children live with them? Why shouldn’t a daughter live with her parents out of love - after all they raised her, if she were to leave them - isn’t that like abandoning them?
And ghar jamai, why should a guy living with the in-laws be frowned on - gosh, that’s like saying a guy who chooses to live with his parents in his parents’ homes is a mama’s boy who’s controlled by his parents 
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InterestIng. When women use the same excuses, they are labeled selfish, maadran, aye Haye mere betay ko cheeN Liya, and just pure evil… However, it is perfectly alright to leave behind aging parents for a little while until they can’t walk on their own because you want to enjoy your married life. Or simply because you don’t want to be called a “Ghar jamai”. Why don’t you take up some financial responsibility so that it becomes your house too? Then, you won’t be a Ghar jamai.
Please tell me more about how good of a son you are to your parents and what a wonderful man you are. ONE OF THESE DAYS, THESE DOUBLE STANDARDS WILL KILL ME AND PEOPLE WON’T EVEN KNOW WHY OR HOW.
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I would have her parents move into my house and take care of them including financially. This way she can live with her parents while I would not feel as though I’m the burden if I moved into their house. There are always ways to compromise if both husband and wife are willing to find solutions that satisfy both.
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Excuses. Women feel too, way more deeply than guys actually. How come their feelings are invalid? This isn’t directed at you but just wondering what would you say if your wife used the same excuse? “hey guys, move into my house, I will pay the bills. Don’t gotta worry about nothing!”
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What double standards?
Theory, these are ghairatmand men, how dare you suggest that living in their in-laws home might be acceptable!!! And forget about the in-laws’ feelings about having to move away their home - their ghairat and feelings matter less :halo:
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Excuses? How am I invalidating her feelings? Im willing to take care of her parents as though they’re my own and you girls are still not satisfied?? Yes then that is the definition of being selfish.
What you’re suggesting is frankly a fantasy because trust me that never happens in reality as smoothly as you’re making it sound. Sure if she wants to pay for all the bills, work while her and her parents not holding it against me and not compare me to the other husbands who work and are primary breadwinner while their wife throws away their money then sure I’d be open to it. Society including you women expect a man to earn, provide and protect the family. When we dont, majority of you will disrespect us over time–girls who dont are rare. Let’s talk reality and not fantasy because you’re right girls are very emotional and often times confused about what you actually want and when people are emotional they’re highly irrational.
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The concern is that they have one daughter & no one would be there to take care of the parents once she gets married, so the guy is chipping in to take care of her parents financially & otherwise. As she is a housewife, as mentioned by OP, she can’t take care of them financially I suppose so guy is there for her, standing by her side, supporting her in this situation. Whats the problem is all about now? You just want us men to say what you want, then this is not gonna happen.
What’s the point of going against society & how it works when everything can happen smoothly? If the guy is living with his parents then he is all concerned about his wife’s parents too.
Hazrat Muhammad SAW didn’t move to any of his in laws place to live there permanently. He married, took wives in his zoijiyat & they moved in with Last Prophet SAW not the other way around. Even Islam doesn’t encourage this set up.
As a man , I am the provider, its my responsibility to provide for her & be there with him in difficult situations. So eff your ghar jamai concept
There will be no problems once some so called feminists understand the fact that male & female are equal BUT they are different creatures too assigned with different responsibilities. 
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There are way more women than men taking care of their inlaws yet their husbands and inlaws are still not satisfied. They are not even appreciated until the parents in law are long gone and their old and sick husbands finally realize what their wives have given up to support them.
FYI, what you are calling a fantasy is my reality. I don’t have a brother. I wasn’t raised any differently than you were. I have been working since I was 16. Why am I selfish for wanting a life of my own but you are not? Because I am a woman, I am expected to make more compromises. I married my husband, he is the only son. I gave up my life to support him, financially and emotionally. I am happy to do so but guess what, I never got to live my life. I get compared all the time and how I am NOT like them because I don’t do what a normal Desi woman is supposed to do. I am a stranger in my own home. My opinion or approval is never necessary no matter how much it affects me. You know what else? One the best men I know married my sister and moved in with her in my parents’ house after 6 years of their marriage because my father was too ill to work. He moved in while he had his own place. Yes, my sister and BIL pay all the bills. He has a big heart and we all appreciate what he does. I don’t expect anything from anyone, that is one lesson I have learned the hard way.
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?? When men are even willing to treat their girls family as their own parents and have them move or live close by and that’s still not enough then why even get married if you just want a servant because the reality is MOST girls and their families disrespect and use such men. You girls want a well off professional man, it’ll be very difficult for him to just leave his career to go live with your parents. You girls are confused, figure out what you truly want. But if you want to live with parents which is fine then just marry a fiancially poor guy who will put up with it because likely your parents household is the best house he will ever be able to live in.
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Yeah well I don’t agree with men who dont appreciate their wives. I won’t be like that IA.
And now you’re bringing up a completely different topic. You seem unsatisfied with your marriage life and you living with your parents likely won’t change that as much as you may think. And Yes if the girls parents are sick and need help then temporarily living in their house for some years as a support system is completely normal and would happily do that for in laws.
And let me ask about your BIL–are his parents still alive, does have an older brother(s) who are taking care of his parents and does he have kids? If his brother is taking care of his parents and him living with his in laws actually helps him with them taking care of the kids, etc–point is he is likely getting some benefit out of it also.
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aha! That is how we, the independent kind, think too! See how we feel now when we get asked to make all the damn compromises when we could do just fine without it all. Why would we get married to your kind if we thought we would be enslaved by you and your family? I can see why men look for women who are willing to become housewives. So they don’t call you out on your BS or they have no other option. Very clever actually.
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If MIL allows me to decorate my room, and stipend is better than my salary I am willing to move in.