Just read a post in AV and this thought came to my mind..what happens to the raped women in our desi society? Are they accepted easily as they are not at fault at all.. Do men accept them in marriage?
If you are a guy reading this, would you marry a raped girl? What concerns you might have?
P.S: If this woman were to be pregnant would you have different concerns?
P.S2: I don’t wish to sound cruel but why isn’t that child dropped or is it?
Re: Guys..Would you marry a raped woman?
hmm…
im our desi culture ofcourse not they r not accepted at all
and if i were a guy i would have married a raped woman
wats the difference that it makes??
i will not have any concerns
and for the baby i dont think i would have kept the baby
i bet that woman wudnt want the baby too…
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billi the ? is for men not billis 
Re: Guys..Would you marry a raped woman?
well how would he know?
the thing with a woman whose been raped or abused/been in an abusive relationship and hasn't gotten proper help, she will have of emotional baggage that some men are just not ready to handle. So a rape/abuse survivor is different than a girl who had sex with a boyfriend, it's not just about she's already been touched. SO i can imagne the issues the guy would have about her mental health and well being.
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This is stupid that the woman wouldn't want the baby...huh!
Ofcourse any woman who has been a victim of rape would have mental health problems but that doesn't means should be treated as trash, it is men's duty to give them the respect they deserve by taking them into their nikkah and help them overcome from this nightmare.
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This question is easily answered.
If you don't view women as meat, then it would be yes, of course I'd marry her.
If you don't respect women, then you'd say no.
Of course the latter tend to be rapists themselves.
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This is stupid that the woman wouldn't want the baby...huh! Ofcourse any woman who has been a victim of rape would have mental health problems but that doesn't means should be treated as trash, it is men's duty to give them the respect they deserve by taking them into their nikkah and help them overcome from this nightmare.
What's stupid?
It's the woman's choice as to whether or not she'd want the fetus. A child forced upon a woman through violence is extremely traumatic.
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And forcing her to abort that child for the sake of "izzat" is even more stupidity and jahiliyat.
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And forcing her to abort that child for the sake of "izzat" is even more stupidity and jahiliyat.
No one is forcing anyone. Force on either side is wrong.
As I said, it's a woman's CHOICE to keep it or not.
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Sara516 has hit the nail on the head, but its different if you know the girl who's been raped, if you care for her & can see a life with her then the emotional problems can be dealt with or endured, but this depends on how mentally strong & independant the guy is. Marrying an abused or vulnerable woman is a completely honourable thing too do, the problem with our people is that in such situations people look for community approval rather than what islam teaches them, sometimes i look at our community & think too myself where the muslims amongst us are hiding........anyway, back to the main point, from a guys perspective, what that abused woman has to understand is that when she marries a guy & he develops feeling/love for her, as far as the guys concerned the abuser has abused/raped his wife. Just because it happened before doesn't make any difference as the woman will carry the mental scars into her new marriage & her new husband will inherit her anger, without exaggerating, to be honest, if it was me the rapist would have too die, if it was physical violence but not rape, then there'd be one serious if not crippling beating on the cards somewhere down the line for him.
This isn't macho wannabe thug talk, any guy worth anything would punish someone who hurt/abused his wife accordingly, even if she wasn't his wife at the time, & i can understand why the woman wouldn't want him to get involved in her past but for a guy it's unacceptable & i'd even go behind her back too do it, justice must prevail, people like that shouldn't be able to get away with it, western law is too weak to deal with them & the offenders human rights dont exist.....either way, if the woman was not at fault then there's no reason why she should be punished, us muslims who claim to be better than the so called 'kaffir' yet the same 'kaffir' treat such women with sympathy & the muslims treat them with contempt & make them outcasts.
Shame on us.
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If you are a guy reading this, would you marry a raped girl? What concerns you might have?
Unless you are backwards and have a very low mentality, I don't see a problem with it.
Please also do not stereotype guys/men in general. It is offensive. At the very least, check the wording and tone of your message. Treat the other sex with fairness, if you wish to receive the same respect in return.
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our desi guys all want virgins ... they dont care about romping around with girls themselves, but they want a pure woman!
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This is stupid that the woman wouldn't want the baby...huh! Ofcourse any woman who has been a victim of rape would have mental health problems but that doesn't means should be treated as trash, it is men's duty to give them the respect they deserve by taking them into their nikkah and help them overcome from this nightmare.
But what if a woman WANTS to abort the child and isnt forced to. The core issue here is that if it's her choice. if she wants to keep it, that's her decision. she will deal with ppls questions and whatnot. If she wants to abort it, that's also her decision, and she will live wiht it for hte rest of her life..... it's really nto fair for anyone to say that if a woman keeps a child, it's bad or if she aborts it it's bad.
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kaka jee rape n consensual sex are two different things. don’t confuse the already confused kids here. thankyou.
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our desi guys all want virgins ... they dont care about romping around with girls themselves, but they want a pure woman!
technically speaking..sex and rape are completely different. Rape is an act of anger and power and sex is the tool used. Its one thing if a guy doesn't want a woman whose had sex already its different if he doesnt want one whose been raped because he views it as the asme thing..if that makes any sense!
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our desi guys all want virgins ... they dont care about romping around with girls themselves, but they want a pure woman!
is miicha a guy?
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technically speaking..sex and rape are completely different. Rape is an act of anger and power and sex is the tool used. Its one thing if a guy doesn't want a woman whose had sex already its different if he doesnt want one whose been raped because he views it as the asme thing..if that makes any sense!
makes sense, but most desi guys still have old mentalities
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This is stupid that the woman wouldn't want the baby...huh! Ofcourse any woman who has been a victim of rape would have mental health problems but that doesn't means should be treated as trash, it is men's duty to give them the respect they deserve by taking them into their nikkah and help them overcome from this nightmare.
What's it like living in your fantasy world? Please don't talk about things that you have absolutely no idea about. It speaks volumes about your intelligence, or lack thereof.
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who wud want that baby???
wud u??
i wont!!!
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yeah there is a difference in sex and sex but dont u have eyes to see???
so u still suspect a woman???
and wats the big deal if u marry sum1 who had sex if u didnt know bout that????
even if shes lying wats the big deal??
dont bring religion in this topic cuz i think god can forgive if ur unaware ..................but human cant!!!