First of all, this is not what I said! Its got nothing to do with generalization, its a comprehension issue from your end and it just shows how badly you misunderstood my entire post. You see this thread mainly concerns with the issues of people living outside of Pakistan, who have to follow the rules and the social norms of the country they don’t even live in, while I think it is is clearly wrong but I think I can at least understand why things work the way they work in Pakistan. Hence that post and that little but very obvious 'lol’ at the end, meaning it was not a scholarly opinion meant to be taken so seriously.
Seems like you have some strong opinions about me, if putting this -:D, this - j.k and this - ‘lol’ did not do the trick, then I don’t know what I should’ve done to make a lighthearted comment look lighthearted. Please don’t apologise about anything, that post was nothing but my worthless two cents, I should be saying sorry for offering a difference of views.
Geez dude, its internet. Who post here to look right by making the next person look wrong and get happy about it? You’re a bit obsessed with I’m right or I’m wrong thing, aren’t you?
And you’re looking for arguments, again (And I bet you’ll ignore it again for the umpteenth time). Sadly though, I have no intentions nor interest to provide you with those. I bet there are people here who’d love to take you up for it. The most I could do is discuss/debate about stuff that may well interest us both. That is all I could do.
So begs the question. What precisely is it that you want? and please be straight forward this time instead of coming up with some sweet new accusations of absurdity or generalizations, because I really do suck reading between the lines or being the creative enough sort to develop a picture out of the oh so cute lol’s and pauls you tend to use. Once taken care of, lets simply get back to our usual routine.
Re: Guys...why wouldn't you live with you in-laws?
Relax. No I'm not looking for 'arguments', I was never looking for argument and that is my point really. None of us are getting amused by each other, so I think we should really just ignore it.
Re: Guys...why wouldn't you live with you in-laws?
Relax. No I'm not looking for 'arguments', I was never looking for argument and that is my point really. None of us are getting amused by each other, so I think we should really just ignore it.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww…its not affecting me at all. Its just so…predictable and has really no place in the discussion. I know what you’re going to say. For the sake of variety…you should switch it up a bit at times.
Being a ghar damaad is different than living with your in-laws so you can be there for them. Isnt that what is all about in Pakistani culture? You don’t want to desert the guy’s parents. So why desert the girl’s parents?
As usual…is sawal ka jawab nahin milega.
I know…strange.
This again makes no sense. Its not about wife’s duty.
Its about the husband’s duty in this thread. Or is that not taught anymore?
Re: Guys...why wouldn't you live with you in-laws?
^ Haven't you heard, Sara? A man living with/taking care of his in-laws is as unnatural as him growing a pair of breasts, getting pregnant and lactating.
Who needs drugs when you can get stoned on the gems uttered on Life1. Allahu Akbar.
Re: Guys...why wouldn't you live with you in-laws?
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww...its not affecting me at all. Its just so...predictable and has really no place in the discussion. I know what you're going to say. For the sake of variety...you should switch it up a bit at times.
Oh really! So anything that goes against your views has no place for discussion. Great argument :D
I say what i feel and believe in and thank God for i don't have self-centered views like you. And neither do i change my mind to show variety to people, maybe that's what you do to gain attention but that's definately not my area of interest. So goodluck to you!
Re: Guys...why wouldn't you live with you in-laws?
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww...its not affecting me at all. Its just so...predictable and has really no place in the discussion. I know what you're going to say. For the sake of variety...you should switch it up a bit at times.
Oh really! So anything that goes against your views has no place for discussion. Great argument :D
I say what i feel and believe in and thank God for i don't have self-centered views like you. And neither do i change my mind to show variety to people, maybe that's what you do to gain attention but that's definately not my area of interest. So goodluck to you!
How come you two never get physical. Come on women! do something, both of you.
What I meant is I can predict what you’re about to say. There was a girl that came from Pakistan last year after she got married and she used to say the same things. This year, she moved away from her in-laws…to the other side of the country.
Well panchu ungli ek jaisi nahi hoti :D. And who knows maybe she had the right reasons to move away? We can’t judge her for it.
I hope to live by what i say but ofcourse i never said that i would tolerate torture and still stay with my inlaws or even husband after being tortured :nono:. The difference with me and the majority of the girls is that they make up their views about their inlaws even without getting to know them first where as i hope to give them a fair chance. That’s it!
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Dunno why you always gotta twist what the OP is saying.
Reha makes a good point.
Forget the social norms and all that for a second, if a man goes to live with his inlaws he's most likely not going to be head of the household especially if the FIL has a strong personality. You won't be able to make decisions without consulting him, he'll be at the head of the table at dinner etc etc. You might be happy when it's your own father but when it's someone else, it's going to drive you crazy that someone else is the boss of you... that's why you guys can't imagine doing such a thing (living with wife's parents).
So why do you think it is so easy for a woman to do it? She wants her own space, her own home where she can set things up and have her own routine that is not dictated by her MIL etc etc. Look at all the threads we've had in life1 over stupid things like kitchen conflicts between MIL and DIL. But you can't blame them. Imagine if your FIL was all up in your business over which car you should drive or something.
I believe the inner most need for a woman is to have a husband who is strong and stable, sometimes her desire for glitz and personal want gets in the way of that inner most need. How would a woman feel if she saw her husband the one who is supposed to feel safe with cowers and is under manners by her parents? Will she be able to trust him and give herself entirely to him will she be able to respect him?
In some rare cases it is needed that a man lives with his in-laws, for example if his wife is the only one to take care of elderly parents then it is important that the mans moves in and takes care of all of them ... however if he himself is the one who is cared for ... that is not reassuring is it?
And then when a man does live with his in-laws does he have as much complaints about them as a DIL has about her inlaws? I dunno the answer to that question ... but I for one would respect my inlaws if they were alive today - even if they showed me disrespect.
