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Let the inlaws thing be a proper dealbreaker in younger generation, in fact I say put it in the catagory as religion. Women, do not even think about falling for a man if he wants to live with his parents after marriage. Men, don't even bother going after a woman if she doesn't want to live with your parents.
I'd say this is the only way to achieve a generation of less miserable married folks.
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yes!!!
lots of unmarried ‘forever alones’ 
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Let the inlaws thing be a proper dealbreaker in younger generation, in fact I say put it in the catagory as religion. Women, do not even think about falling for a man if he wants to live with his parents after marriage. Men, don't even bother going after a woman if she doesn't want to live with your parents.
I'd say this is the only way to achieve a generation of less miserable married folks.
I agree, its why some eligable men go back home to marry a traditionally brought up girl.
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I agree, its why some eligable men go back home to marry a traditionally brought up girl.
Actually...there are other reasons for that.
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what's the norm in japan after a couple is married in terms of the guys' family and the gal's family?
Well in the last decade or so people are getting married later and later so the women can enjoy more freedom and work as much as they like. What @nadeemnirvana said is not true. Its not becoming common and in fact most people don't have their parents/in-laws living with them. Why? Because families usually don't have the space and in-laws/parents usually do not want to live with their kids because its more stressful to them and they can't really do much. As I said before in another post in nursing homes. Most Japanese parents do NOT want to live with their kids. They rather be with people their own age. btw my grand mother lives by herself but her Japanese DIL (eldest sons wife) visits her everyday. We can't because we live no where near her. Australian grand mother well we stayed and visited her while we were there but she would go bonkers if she lived with us so she doesn't want to lol. (not that she could since we're in Japan the most inconvenient country for an elderly foreigner.)
I find it funny that he/she would think whats on the internet is all true about Japan. I mean does this mean that Japan has samurais and geishas walking around everywhere? Or that we just have abundance of space? The apartment I live in now is a half of what my apartment used to be in Australia. and if you compare Pakistani houses to Japanese ones... you would think we're living in a shoe box :(
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desi are people are just pathetic........... they need to learn from other races.......
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I never said “want to live” that is a personal choice. I was not stating anyones wants or desires just pointing out that over 50% of the worlds population practices living with parents after marraige. I also didnt say it was becoming common.
If you think http://en.wikipedia.org/ spread lies thats upto you. It is not some random site on the internet.
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desi are people are just pathetic........... they need to learn from other races.......
I think its better that they stay that way. Even though theres a lot of drama in what they do its their culture and tradition. I'm against whitewashing cultures it doesn't make you any better it just makes you the same...
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Okay how many Japanese do you know? and how many do you know that they live with their inlaws? I’m sorry but I actually live in Japan so I think I would have a better grasp on how Japanese live rather than an internet site. I only know of one family that has their grand mother living with them and thats only because the nursing home she wasn’t that good. No, if you have travelled you would know that over 50% of the population does NOT live practice living with parents after marriage.
Whats common in Japan & America is that people are living with their parents when they are single so they can save enough to move out when they get married.
Anybody can write on that site so a lot of the information is outdated or misinformed. You shouldn’t rely on internet sites, articles or tv because they would never be 100% accurate.
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ok 
point taken you know a woman in japan that does not live with her son or daughter inlaw.
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No, I know several. I live in Japan.
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there are guys who want wives to live with in laws, there are those that dont. if you have a strong preference either way, make it clear before the wedding. your ability to make demands and still get married depends on what you yourself bring to the table - so if you are someone who has no job skills, want to sleep all day in a palace provided by hubby etc.. good luck.
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there are guys who want wives to live with in laws, there are those that dont. if you have a strong preference either way, make it clear before the wedding. your ability to make demands and still get married depends on what you yourself bring to the table - so if you are someone who has no job skills, want to sleep all day in a palace provided by hubby etc.. good luck.
WHAT!?
are you saying that I can't?? ;(
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It makes no sense when men get upset with women who don't want to live with in-laws. The arguments I hear are:
"Women are supposed to make more sacrifices than men"
"That's the way our culture works...you want me to change it all now?"
"What's wrong with my family?"
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Here's a new one for you--because I don't think they deserve that kind of punishment.
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Men have a hard enough time winning fights on neutral, or home, court. Playing an away game with a hostile crowd give us no shot.
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It's amazing how a simple concept presented by the OP is so extremely difficult to understand for some people here.
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^ I agree. The mere suggestion seems pretty offensive to some. You'd think OP had suggested blue murder!
Don't you think this arrangement would solve ALOT of the MIL and Hubby issues, as Son in laws are usually treated well in comparison...and the wife will be less vulnerable to any abuse.
Personally, i think its imperative that the couple have their own livng space, even if its upstairs or next door...unless parents are phiyscally deoendent.
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............ You all need to live with your in-laws.
Alright, a serious answer is: ** It will not solve anything. **
Why does a man HAVE to be dependent on someone? Why can he not stand on his own two feet? If a woman can, what excuse does a man have to live with his mammi pappa or his inlaws? I do not understand this need to be a burden on someone so you will have to explain WHY it is that a man cannot just live on his own? None of the threads here have ever suggested a man moving in with his wife's parents. They stress independence.
Im wondering what men today are so afraid of?
Whatever reason you give, if it is not going to solve ANYTHING,
...then why are you asking men to do something useless?
Anything means......anything!
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Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Oh bhai I was not right about anything...maaf kardo mujhe. :(
Nahi kurna, zabardasti nahi karo! :(
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come on…now… read my post too