Guys who cheat

NJMasti · July 29, 2008, 4:49pm

I think there are many Pakistani guys that not loyal to their partner…

Personally I know two of my friends were in this situation… they were dating at the time… and obviously broke off

It’s easy for guys to go back to home land and find a new “masoom” rishta! and the girls remain broken hearted forevA!

mAd_ScIeNtIsT · July 29, 2008, 4:55pm

I lack sympathy for those girls. Serves them right for dating rather than being traditional.

NJMasti · July 29, 2008, 5:00pm

so do you think those brokenhearted girls should not have dated in the first place?

I don't undersand why it's the girls fault in this?

Kaka_MaNNa · July 29, 2008, 5:00pm

So, what is your question?

You have to be with a perfect partner to not cheat…

Parveen-k · July 29, 2008, 5:03pm

Re: Guys who cheat

A commitment is a commitment....regardless if you are dating or married.

Saying someone deserves it for dating....sounds like one of those comments "she deserved it for dressing like that"....if you catch my drift

NJMasti · July 29, 2008, 5:04pm

So Jaan Leva - u think those guys were not with "perfect" partners - that why they were cheating?

Then those guys should not have been dating in the first place if THEY those they were not with perfect partners....rt!

Ansoon · July 29, 2008, 5:04pm

I think you are just pissed of at someone and taking it out on everyone else..

not all guys are cheaters, just look around you there are many GS couples that are happily married and they are doing great MasahAllah and I am sure these guys are not cheaters..

give us guys a break and stop generalizing..

I know a lot of girls who have cheated on their husbands but I dont' generalize it to every pakistani larki...

NJMasti · July 29, 2008, 5:05pm

I mean to say - that those guys should not have dated these girls

NJMasti · July 29, 2008, 5:08pm

just look around you there are many GS couples that are happily married and they are doing great

This is generalizing

how do you know that the same guys that show happiness in their marriage here at this forum - that some of them are NOT cheating?

Their rule is keep wife happy at home, and keep the other happy outside of home

mAd_ScIeNtIsT · July 29, 2008, 5:16pm

I'm not saying that it's the girl's fault that the guys were such pricks. I'm just saying that if the girls chose to behave more traditionally, rather than ape western customs, they wouldn't have been in this situation. It's their choice that exposed them to the risk, and therefore I have no sympathy for them dealing with the consequences.

Kaka_MaNNa · July 29, 2008, 5:17pm

Those girls should not have been dating in the first place... mithai bahir rakho ghay tou makhiyaan tou bethain ghi na bibi saab.

mama_ki_dua · July 29, 2008, 5:20pm

I’ve seen a few friends go through this and trust me it’s awful to see them in this position

I don’t understand how can a guy not develop feelings for someone who they spend so much time with How can they just leave someone like that?

I agree

shining_star · July 29, 2008, 5:22pm

i think,guys who cheat are selfish,and immature..i believe the reason why they never take any girl seriously before marriage is because they think that such girls are easily bullied.they think those girls are only good,and worth marrying whom their families choose for them.

mama_ki_dua · July 29, 2008, 5:24pm

Re: Guys who cheat

That makes sense

Monk · July 29, 2008, 6:00pm

Even girls.
Its like dating is a taboo(un like western culture), and once you beak a rule you might want do "stuff" with as many ppl as you could.
Like once you break into a bank you would want to pick all the money you could have your hands on.

Call me what ever but for that one reason I never want to marry a girl who has "dated" before.
I mean I have no problem marrying a divorced/widow girl. But DATING is a no no.
Once a thief always thief.

stoppit · July 29, 2008, 6:16pm

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^LOL. I completely agree with the first bit though. I'm very happily engaged to a pakistani guy who hasn't even stepped foot out of the country in his whole life yet but before i met him my experience (not personally) of pakistani guys was pretty bad. seeing what they got up to in secret i swore i could never marry one. but hey, it turns out a lot of girls are pretty bad too so whaddya know.

Mirch · July 29, 2008, 6:20pm

You said many , it means some are loyal to their wives. I will say you are not generalizing , you are leaving room for exception, but it is other way around some are cheaters and most are loyal to their wives.

I am using the term wives as there is no concept of domestic partners in Islam and last time I checked most of the Pakistani are still Muslim. Also there is no concept of Western style dating in Islam. If one choses to do so specially with someone who is temporarily in some Western country for studies those girls are taking a big risk. As you said these boys can go back and find some masson larki.
Yes I will agree that most of the Pakistani men who are born and raised in Pakistan will have certain reservations against the girls raised in Western countries , specially if these girls are into dating they will think that these girls can never be loyal to them because since they are too frank and forward it will be easy for them to be friends with other men.

So it is better if these girls be careful and go for the traditional process of finding their husbands. Again I am not generalizing , not all boys/men from back home will have that kind of mindset but unfortunately most do.

During the dating period , the boys and girls are checking each other out to see if they can be compatible husband and wife or not so if a guy is checking the personality of two girls at the same he is trying to save time on his search for his future wife. If he finds out that one or the other or both of them are not his dream girls then he moves on. Cheating is taboo in Western countries during dating because the couples who are dating have sexual relations too, that results in an emotional bond and if one or the other cheats that is very hurtful.

I hope and pray that Pakistani couples who choose to date should avoid Western style dating so that this kind of emotional bond does not develop which can lead to hurting of one or the other.

_MuNiYa · July 29, 2008, 6:23pm

Re: Guys who cheat

Wow such MODERN unkils and such traditional thought process.

mAd_ScIeNtIsT · July 29, 2008, 6:23pm

[quote="Parveen-k, post:21, topic:185355"]

A commitment is a commitment....regardless if you are dating or married./QUOTE]

Marriage is a sacred commitment and dating is just a casual commitment.

Monk · July 29, 2008, 6:27pm

A perfect example!!
why isn't cheating bad when you are dating some one??? I mean alone with the girl, don't you assure her she is only one??
Don't you say you love her??

But still you go out and cheat???

ps: not you you, but a third person.