A friend of mine is in a strange situation where his family has been receiving a few proposals from the girls families for him. Is that normal?. The guy is really annoyed by this and feels that he should be the one to send the proposal if he is interested, rather than the other way around. Have you ever been involved in such a situation. directly or indirectly, where the girl’s side is the one to express interest?. This an awkward situation for the guy, specially because he treats some of the girls as his sisters
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Why is that awkward? Why does the guy's side have to always send the proposal? If he is not interested he can just say so. Just like girls and their families do.
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its very common i suppose...it's NOT directly from the guy's family to the girl's family...it's usually through some close friend or a relative. i do NOT see anything WRONG with the idea...why can't a girl's family have the same rights? gimme a good reason, plz!
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I am not a big fan of the arranged setup, but I do think it's perfectly acceptable for a girl to tell the guy she likes him, and go from there. Sometimes the boy isnt aware of her feelings, nor has he tinkered the possibility of considering her as his life partner. Sometimes you have to have someone else trigger a thought.
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Why is that awkward? Why does the guy's side have to always send the proposal? If he is not interested he can just say so. Just like girls and their families do.
Well, you are correct that it should not just be the boy's side sending the proposal, specially since our society is getting more open-minded. However, in Pakistani society, it is still the boy's family that has the upper hand in these matters( we might not like it, but its true), so that's why it is awkward.
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There's nothing wrong, Islamically, with the girl taking the initiative.....but it's not as accepted culturally.
Maybe it was the girls' parents (more so than the girls themselves) that were interested in him for their daughters. Now if it was the girls that were keen on marrying him.......perhaps the awkwardness could be reduced if they gauged his level of interest before deciding whether or not they should propose. But then again, it can be tricky to determine if someone is interested in you.
It also depends on how the matter is "worded." As pointed out by Khalil above....it could have been done through a family friend of the girls...who may have approached the matter as "So, are you looking for your son? You know so n so's daughter....I believe she's a classmate of your son.....her parents are also searching for her." Aunti/Uncle.....pauses.....at which point the response your friend's parents give can give an indication about their level of interest. I don't see anything wrong with that. Depends upon the approach....it can be done in a respectable and subtle way....and your friend might not even have ANY idea about how the matter was approached behind his back. If he wasn't there to witness it...he might assume that it was done in an "aggressive way" as if the girl and her parents are chasing after him....when in reality it could have been handled in a classy/decent manner by the girl's side.
If it's awkward for your friend......he needs to understand that it's also awkward (maybe even more so) for his female friends that he sees as just "sisters." He'd have to try and maintain a normal attitude when interacting with them....so as to not make it embarrassing for them. Again, the awkward feeling is not only confined to himself......it can be worse for the party that has been rejected.
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Eh that's not odd mate. I know plenty of cases where that has happened. Hell, Desi aunties try and get up in my face with that often.
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Why do little things like this have to be a big deal? I dont understand why the egos are so big.
Why cant this guy be a normal human being about it? Be humble, grateful for the attention and simply say he is not interested at this time. Its a rishta...not a nikah-namah that is being sent over.
Its petty to create an issue out of something that isnt actually bad at all...isnt a problem or even close to one.
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Why is that awkward? Why does the guy's side have to always send the proposal? If he is not interested he can just say so. Just like girls and their families do.
Exactly.
Fazool ki overacting lol.
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The guy is really annoyed by this
he should be flattered.
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Those girls and their families are all sluts. 
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Why do little things like this have to be a big deal? I dont understand why the egos are so big.
Why cant this guy be a normal human being about it? Be humble, grateful for the attention and simply say he is not interested at this time. Its a rishta...not a nikah-namah that is being sent over.
Its petty to create an issue out of something that isnt actually bad at all...isnt a problem or even close to one.
YES
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This is a complete awkward situation. Girl's family never takes the first step in Pakistan. A girl proposing a boy maybe OK and is getting common, but not the girl's family proposing.
Those babbling above have no idea of Pakistani culture.
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Usually it is more subtle way.
Aao Beta, Kuch Khaogay?
Sakina Zara Roti to bana do. Phir chai bhi Le Aana.
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This is a complete awkward situation. Girl's family never takes the first step in Pakistan. A girl proposing a boy maybe OK and is getting common, but not the girl's family proposing.
Those babbling above have no idea of Pakistani culture.
Proposing is usually the guys' thing but a rishta??? What is so offensive about getting a rishta?
This makes no sense.
Kisi ne kaha ke "so and so's family is interested in your son" and all of a sudden that is a marriage proposal? And worse - offensive?
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Only if she gets down on her knees and all … 
FUN FACT: It was hazrat khadija (RA) who proposed to Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), not the other way around.
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someone drop M bomb on your friend. :p
anyho, Hazrat Khadija RA also proposed to Prophet Muhammad PBUH. so guys shouldn't find it odd. if girls believes that you are the one then do ask her why do they believe that.
in fact, even Quran no where says that guys should be the only proposing.
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Those girls and their families are all sluts
stop trolling...
our beloved prophet was sent the proposal by his wife khatija ra..
islam allows this as you are mates for each other..
but male ego doesn't.....
we have had many indirect rishta from girls family for guys in our family,
one should be flattered that others think of you as worthy of their daughter...
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This is a complete awkward situation. Girl's family never takes the first step in Pakistan. A girl proposing a boy maybe OK and is getting common, but not the girl's family proposing.
Those babbling above have no idea of Pakistani culture
I wonder which Pakistan you live in???
In the pakistan ,India's neighbour I live in, ( punjab )
we have a lot of girls families or friends indirectly proposing on the girls behalf
I suppose it just depends on the circle of friends
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I get that all the time … 