Re: Guys receiving proposals from the girl’s side
Sarcasm fail, sigh :hinna:
Kyon kay saas bhi kabhi MILF thi
Re: Guys receiving proposals from the girl's side
Omer259 Peace
Yes ... it is not considered 'correct' etiquette for the girls side to ask for the rishta.
The reason for this is quite clear but people are not looking at this ... It is to maximise the honour of the girl and to reduce the chances of her being rejected. When the man goes out to ask for the rishta then the girls side can accept or reject. But if the girls side goes out then if she gets rejected then it will affect her more seeing that a woman is more closer to her emotions than a man would be. So you see she gets to maintain her honour.
Rather if the girls side wants the rishta ... they should say to the boy's family that "we are now looking for a rishta for the girl" and if the boy's side are interested they will take the opportunity first.
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What a fag
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What a fag
You should go into politics. You have such a talent for subtlety and mediation :D
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your mate is just boasting -- nothing else !
Re: Guys receiving proposals from the girl's side
your mate is just boasting -- nothing else !
I was wondering that as well.
Re: Guys receiving proposals from the girl's side
Omer259 Peace
Yes ... it is not considered 'correct' etiquette for the girls side to ask for the rishta.
The reason for this is quite clear but people are not looking at this ... It is to maximise the honour of the girl and to reduce the chances of her being rejected. When the man goes out to ask for the rishta then the girls side can accept or reject. But if the girls side goes out then if she gets rejected then it will affect her more seeing that a woman is more closer to her emotions than a man would be. So you see she gets to maintain her honour.
Rather if the girls side wants the rishta ... they should say to the boy's family that "we are now looking for a rishta for the girl" and if the boy's side are interested they will take the opportunity first.
Uh huh. I wish it was like that. The Guy's family comes over to chk the girl and things proceed only when the GUY'S family gives a goahead. Ofcourse the girl's family can choose to still go ahead or not.
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As a guy I would be quite flattered. It's a nice feeling but obviously say no due to my circumstances. Your mate is just being a **** :)
I know its not the "normal" way of how things are done but there are certain ways of initiating interest in a honourable way.
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On second thoughts. If the guy is being asked for it again n again then i can understand why he must be getting irritated but if not then maybe he is just showing off.
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Proposing is usually the guys' thing but a rishta??? What is so offensive about getting a rishta?
This makes no sense.
I'm not giving reasons here, I'm just saying what NORMALLY happens in Pakistan. It can be an awkward situation as the OP has said if his family is getting proposals from girls families.
Kisi ne kaha ke "so and so's family is interested in your son" and all of a sudden that is a marriage proposal? And worse - offensive?
This is not normally called a proposal, the proposals being discussed here are the ones where both families are directly involved. It is awkward in such situations as the OP has said.
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You should go into politics. You have such a talent for subtlety and mediation :D
I'd probably be assassinated very quickly. so.no.
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I wonder why? 
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Theres no shortage of ppl wiling to pull the trigger? 
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Huh..he OP has disappeared. Funny. Is it because the OP is the guy in question…or is beginning to feel the whole ordeal is a non-issue?
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I know its not the "normal" way of how things are done but there are certain ways of initiating interest in a honourable way.
A family have just sent a proposal for my nephew,we dont know them so they are showing interest through a third party...
nothing wrong in this it makes you think Allah ka shukar hai someone thinks of us as being honourable and wants their daughter married to our sons,bros etc
Re: Guys receiving proposals from the girl's side
your mate is just boasting -- nothing else !
Would you consider it to be boasting if you receive a proposal from a girl who you treat as a sister?. Come on. This guy has been put into a situation where now he can't even show his face to the girl anymore.
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I'm not giving reasons here, I'm just saying what NORMALLY happens in Pakistan. It can be an awkward situation as the OP has said if his family is getting proposals from girls families.
This is not normally called a proposal, the proposals being discussed here are the ones where both families are directly involved. It is awkward in such situations as the OP has said.
Thanks, Bud, I thought so too. I am surprised how clueless some people are about Pakistani culture and practices.
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A friend of mine is in a strange situation where his family has been receiving a few proposals from the girls families for him. Is that normal?. The guy is really annoyed by this and feels that he should be the one to send the proposal if he is interested, rather than the other way around. Have you ever been involved in such a situation. directly or indirectly, where the girl's side is the one to express interest?. This an awkward situation for the guy, specially because he treats some of the girls as his sisters
I've known it to happen before. It did happen to me once, though I was already married. One of my engaged friends got several proposals after being engaged. One of my other married friends has been getting proposals even after he was married and had kids. So it's not unheard of. In most cases, I don't think there's anything wrong with it either.
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I've known it to happen before. It did happen to me once, though I was already married. One of my engaged friends got several proposals after being engaged. One of my other married friends has been getting proposals even after he was married and had kids. So it's not unheard of. In most cases, I don't think there's anything wrong with it either.
Wifey / SO must be excited ! :D