Re: Guys - my engagement is off ( i think )
Look I’m not trying to be mean. But you come here seeking a confidence boost and most of us like helping out. And the advice that we give (which boosts your confidence) is not worded falsely in a way to make you feel better…it’s worded in a common sense way. For example, when a perosn is HARD on themselves…it totally warps their perceptions and they don’t see clearly. Thing is…you can seek that encouragement from random strangers on an online forum or from your friends and family…but it won’t amount to much if YOU don’t set YOURSELF straight.
You’ve had several years in the making of YOU as a person…it involved your upbringing, your education, your friends, your experiences, your own inherited individuality. “Guys” did not factor too much or too often into this. Even with this guy…let’s say he rejects you…how much of an impact or contribution has he made to your life …that you should make HIM and his rejection a part of your identity? The answer is…not much.