Irem, you missed out women who have children and full time jobs.
Letting the wife make her own decision .. is what the husband should prefer.
Mad_sci: You are such a chauvinist ..
^ Well actually it's a decision that impacts both people and possibly children too, so needs to be discussed by both partners. Let's not swing the pendulum all the other way.
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Well.. it is the other way round in most of the households(man making the decisions regarding a woman's life), so consider this as my humble contribution towards balancing the damn scale.
To be serious.. U are right. It is better if the husband and wife talk the thing out. But a woman's opinion has to have more weightage, afterall it is her life( and most women very well know what is good for the family and the kids).
It all depends on the guy's income. If he is working in burger king then his wife needs to work !!!
But if he is educated then his wife should stay at home and take care of the kids and family. I would personally want to have a really nice job and my wife to stay at home with kids and my parents. But if the wife is bored and wants to have a part time job to have good self-steam then fine with me.
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my parents.
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hmmmpphhh!!
i prefer last one..:)
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What about the option "I will let her decide what she wants to do after marriage and after having kids and after kids start school" ?
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Are you available???
what's with the polls Irem. Quit it please.
Besides this is one of those timeless debates like which came first , murghi or unda.
These polls are almost sexist and of course the place where both sexes are so devided.
how about changing option (2) to:
No, I would not like to throw my resposibilities on her shoulders and add to her already more than anough duties!!!!
hmmmm
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What about the option "I will let her decide what she wants to do after marriage and after having kids and after kids start school" ?
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But then again, I want that option too, why should a woman only get that option?
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But then again, I want that option too, why should a woman only get that option?
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hey..men can have that option..marry some professional woman n then sit at home n take care of the children n cook n clean...:D
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why cant we let the ladies choose what they prefer :)
and every one will live happy ever after :)
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What about the option "I will let her decide what she wants to do after marriage and after having kids and after kids start school" ?
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Yes, this should be in options.....
I dont think its anyone's choice but the girl herself.If she feels she can work and take care of the house at the same time then yes.
There is a reason Allah assigned outside work for men and inside for women. But if she feels she needs to or want to men should support them. Even if she doesnt need the money financially and she is highly qualified she should work.
I don think this poll should be there to begin with. What does guy has to do with it.
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*Originally posted by nia_khan: *I don think this poll should be there to begin with. What does guy has to do with it.
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Well, the point of this poll is to determine for guys what the preferred outcome of their wives/future wives' decision to work or not is.
thats my point!
what makes men think they can decide on that?
When you choose to marry someone there are a lot of factors that come into play. This thread is to find out if the girl works or not and who would think of that as a positive when deciding on marrying someone. Atleast that's what I understood about this dhaaga.
Those people who think that what the guy has to do with the girl's job then for them i would like to say that maybe in other countries the environment is different but in pakistan when the "rishta" comes for a girl they take the complete bio data of her that what and why does she do the job and how does she manage it and blah blah blah...this thing is considered very bad in pakistan that a girl is doing a job as if she is committing a sin. Guys as well as their familes ususally dont like working women...
Nowadays although many girls are going out but when there comes a marriage thingy 10% to 15% girls are allowed to go for a job! so i dont think this questionnaire is wrong or invalid if we talk about pakistani women.