Oh my God, if I had a nickel every time I heard this one.
Any guy I have spoken to who is in his 30’s, and we’re talking MOSTLY early 30’s, not necessarily 39 yr old guys who understandably are pee-ing in their pants with 40 close; all have said that “We are so old, we are beyond the attractive age for marriage, proposals are hard to come by”.
what the???
I don’t get this. I always thought growing up since most of the guys in my family got married in their 30’s, that 30’s is a NORMAL time to get married. Especially for guys, since they can spend much of their 20’s getting their degrees, getting jobs, getting stabilized, paying off loans, earning money for a few years so they can even afford a family, etc. Some guys deal with immigration, and so that takes time also, and guys are in their early 30’s sometimes when they even START looking.
I think guys are marrying young with time. Even in my family, most guys got married/engaged around 27-28. And half of the guys in my class are engaged or married
Yeah that's the trend now earlier marriages, but so what's the difference between 33 and 27?? Who cares? If anything you might be more financially settled in your early 30's.
Doctors getting married during medical school is just shocking to me, but that's the trend. It works great for guys, because they have a wife to help them at home. For girl doctors it is a nightmare, and most girls will put off marriage till after residency due to difficulty balancing home-inlaws-husband-babies-and training. Not to mention that guys families often pull the girls out of training so their certifications are not completed.
I'm glad I finished everything up and didn't let someone pull me out. But guys have a different luxury.
Difference between 33 and 27 isn't too much if you look at it from numbers perspective. But the guys who say they 'feel old' or 'beyond the age of marriage' .. they probably say those things because they maybe surrounded by people of their own age or even younger who are are married or in a relationship. And this mostly comes from the guys who are working 9-5 saving money, or trying to build a career so that they could marry, have a relationship (the halal way) and start a family which they have been longing for or seeing other guys of their age doing already. I doubt you would hear this 'feel old for marriage' from a guy who is a player with multiple girlfriends and doing all non-halal stuff. They mostly think they are young till they are 40 and can hit almost anything ...
Guys in their early 30s want girls in their mid 20s to late 20s...girls in that age bracket generally don't want that kind of a age gap. But none of these things matter if its not an "arrange marriage" route.
its bizarre. we don't make sense a lot of the time.
Lol, I have never heard this. All the unmarried guys I know who are between 29-34 have never hinted they are "to old for marriage". If anything they are enjoying single life cause "marriage is coming soon" lol.
at my age and with my tremendous experience and wisdom: marriage is overrated , but I'm afraid, I might one day be married too to someone whose not as hot as Dipika
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Guys in 30s are ancient! Look at this way. Sports - men in their teen up until 27 are highly sought after by teams. Why because that's their prime age. Anything above 30 is a winding up horse. Seriously girls, get married to younger dudes and help us youngins' out.
Definitely haven't heard of this where I am! My brother is 31 and now, after much prodding, he has finally allowed us to start looking for a rishta - even now he was saying he is too YOUNG but we told him enough is enough.
My brothers 23 just started a job and already asked my mum to start looking. He wants to marry around 25/26. I think that's a good age. 30 is pushing it a bit.
I'll be 31 next summer and all my friends, colleagues and cousins of my age (even younger) are married. Many have 2 or more school going kids. If I look that way then obviously I'm quite behind. By the time I hit 50, my eldest child will still be in teens, this is something that lot of guys think about and feel that the right time of marriage has passed.
Frankly, I don't try to think that way, getting education and then working hard to get a decent job takes effort and time. Not many people go that route and it requires this sort of sacrifice. There are pros and cons of everything. Still if I could go back in time, 25 or 26 were probably best years to get married.
I haven't heard anyone say that they're too old at 30. I'd say a good time for a guy to get married is in his 20s or maybe after graduating and starting work. Even earlier wouldn't be so bad, as long as he's stable and has the right focus in terms of completing studies and getting work.
The problem with everyone's approach to marriage is: its like a life goal! like getting a job, and complete university. In actuality, marriage is like clothing, food, housing, or behaving civil.
You can get an education and work towards a decent job while getting married and having a family. It doesn't have to be one or the other. I was studying pharmacy when I got married. Got pregnant during my training year of work. Sat my exams while pregnant too. Husband was training and working at the same time. Its hard but its not impossible. I suppose it depends on how much you want it.
You can get an education and work towards a decent job while getting married and having a family. It doesn't have to be one or the other. I was studying pharmacy when I got married. Got pregnant during my training year of work. Sat my exams while pregnant too. Husband was training and working at the same time. Its hard but its not impossible. I suppose it depends on how much you want it.
It depends on how much you want it AND how much support you have from your husband and/or family.. It definitely can be possible but for every girl that is able to do it there seem to be half a dozen who can't.. The majority do drop out of work or study when they marry early.. We only have to look around us to see that..
It depends on how much you want it AND how much support you have from your husband and/or family.. It definitely can be possible but for every girl that is able to do it there seem to be half a dozen who can't.. The majority do drop out of work or study when they marry early.. We only have to look around us to see that..
True support from family is important but some married couples don't get that and still manage. I think it's important to discuss these issues with prospective rishtas before marriage. It should be clear what both parties expect from each other.