What do we think about the concept of guys getting married in the ages of 19-25? This would mean the parents would support him, his education, his future family until he’s on his own two feet. Maybe even if the girls family helped out financially, that would help.
I personally, don’t understand why girls are pushed to be married so early, and why guys aren’t.
Thoughts?
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What if the guy has a girlfriend and just wants to "make it halal"?
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In most cases not all young girls do tend to marry older guys.... I suppose its usually the older men looking for younger wifes...
In my opinion most guys between the ages of 19-25 are immature. If the man is young the chances are hes not finished his studies and is not financialy secure to have a wife which may follow with children. Its not fair for parents to have to support two adults and their children. This can result in the man becoming dependant on thier parents hand outs.
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In my opinion, guys should not get married until he is settled. By then, he will be mature enough to handle the responsibilities. Guys get settled in different ages depending on their responsibilities. But he should be on his job for at least 4-5 years before he should get married so that none of the sets of parents will have to support the newly married married couple. The 19-25 year old guys getting married might have expectations from the their parents, or the parents of the wife to get them settled since they are not very established. Even if the wife is working, she will need to take sometime off for children and the husband should be able to take up full responsibility of his wife and children.
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I know of a few such cases. In one case, the guy, a class fellow, got married right after doing his Inter, which would make him about 19ish. He inherited his family business, so wasnt really looking for a degree or anything, as all that was required of him was to sit on the director's chair.
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If a guy is from well established family then it is a good idea to get married early. I don't think so 22 to 24 is super early age for guys if they are settled. I have seen many guys who got married in this age bracket because either they have strong financial background or they get very good job and they don't have any family responsibility. All these guys are highly educated like engineer or MBA's. And no they are not dependent on their dad's money or parents.
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Maybe this works out better in Pakistan than abroad 
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since when 24,25 become super early?
Once they are out of 22s..23s, there is no harm in getting married if guy is well settled. Now definition of 'settled' might differ greatly from people to people.
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If I would have been married at 18 , I must have been more mature and focused . Who are we fooling , we all know girls / sex is a distraction for men . Better to get it out of the way asap .
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^Yes but a lot of guys are different people/have different minds at 18 compared to even 5-6 years later. I'm all for doing things properly to avoid hanky panky that'll cause trouble, but a lot of guys are just not mentally equipped to be husbands, and that's what causes their wives to come on GS and complain about hubbies being mummy's boys etc etc.
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first of all 19-25 is a big age bracket - but one can be a business science or engineering graduate by 22 on be able to find a job
i have a different theory than yours - if a guy and a girl are mature and parents are supportive, it maybe better for them to be committed to each other during this transition to having responsibilities job etc. in this day and age there it may be beneficial for both the gurl and guy go through this phase together while studying, graduating and getting a job rather than landing into a marriage when you have nothing better to do i mean where is the thrill in that
In my opinion, guys should not get married until he is settled. By then, he will be mature enough to handle the responsibilities. Guys get settled in different ages depending on their responsibilities. But he should be on his job for at least 4-5 years before he should get married so that none of the sets of parents will have to support the newly married married couple. The 19-25 year old guys getting married might have expectations from the their parents, or the parents of the wife to get them settled since they are not very established. Even if the wife is working, she will need to take sometime off for children and the husband should be able to take up full responsibility of his wife and children.
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i think a guy is not mature before 21 or 22
and he should get married only when he is settled.....and totally NOT dependant on his or wife's parents.....
even if a guy is from established family he should get married atleast after age 23....so that he can take the responsibilty easily....
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guy has to be financially stable in order to marry........... all the 'responsiblities' and all that jazz........ i know of many guys who married during 20-25 because they didn't have any financial stability to gain either due to business family or a joint family where finances are shared and the household budget doesn't get affected........
mature, immature.........i don't buy this bullcrap........ people can be mature at 22 or immature at 32.........
girls don't really have to do anything in order to get married............... career isn't a must its only a choice (as opposed to guys)........so they can easily get hitched during student days..........
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Better age groups would be 18-22 (too young for guys, good for girls) and 23-29 (just about right for both).
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If it's just cuz he has girlfriends and they want him to settle into a halaal relationship --> bad idea. He's clearly immature, has little respect for his deen, little respect for women, little respect for culture, and guys like that make awful husbands.
If he's like 24, done with college, got a job, a good job, and is now looking, that's different. You can be 24 and settled - people I know got a bachelors in IT and they have good computer jobs, started making good early on. Just depends on the guy. There are some college programs that are tied in with a shortened masters...you can potentially have a masters by 24 or 25. In the job market soon after, and with a job, and bam, married in the next few months if you started looking towards the end of your masters degree.
So that's a wide range really. 19- waaaaaaayyyyy too young in America - you're just getting out of high school.
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guys or girls getting married super young is weird
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What if the guy has a girlfriend and just wants to "make it halal"?
MH: Islamically, it is ok to get marry early as possible. But back in the time of Holy Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), life was simple and world was not that luxurious as it is today.
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IMHO, Parents do understand financial stability is key in married life and our society is heavily dominated by male partner (bread winner) therefore parents usually unwelcome the concept of early marriages.
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Marrying a budda was never going to happen. 
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