No. Just cause you check someone out doesn't mean that you are actually having any contact with them. I can see someone across the street on my lunch break and say to myself or my friend, "damn, he's fine" but that doesn't mean I'm actually crossing the street and giving him my contact information. That would be wrong. That would be starting the affair. By the way, I have yet to experience seeing someone across the street and saying, "damn baby, you got it going on"!
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Hmmm. Mehnaz. Actually.. I say, ok nothing wrong if you check out a good looking guy/gal! I used to do that too.. :) But now it doens't feel good.
It is a different story when you are commited to someone, or married or are in love with someone. That was the starting point.
That's when I was with this friend. And who is soon to get married. And it made me think that, for me its not even sure yet. Actually its over more like.
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I don't believe this checking the other gender out or say 'he is hot' 'she is a hottess' very appropriate. I don't think when I look at a guy I see if he is hot, how do you know that he or she is hot, is it written somewhere that he is hot or what ?! I think looking in a normal way is alright but seeing someone in a sexual way and especially if you are engaged/married the first step towards betraying your partner. I would not appreciate if my husand does this behind my back and I know that he will not appreicate if I do the same.
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I agree with you Saadia.
looking only might not be wrong, but if that awakes sexual thoughts, ya desires, I think that will be wrong.
and then looking at the person gizzy is talking about, wo to mangi shuda haye. so I would say ke usse is nazar se nahie dekhna chaahiye. if he was only looking and saying ke hot haye, I myself would rather avoid that too.
but koyi haseen badna/ ya bandi nazar bhi a jae, then jsut say ke wo banda acha nazar a raha haye, rather then calling the person "hot" .
^ god forbid one ever has a sexual thought. There is nothing wrong with having sexual thoughts it is part of human nature. there is nothing wrong with finding someone of the other sex attrative. there is something wrong if you go and excerise upon those feelings if you are not supposed to.
so what if you looked ? both your girlfriends might be talking about some hunk in their class or neighbourhood and if he happen to pass by they might have give him " THE LOOK"
I don’t know wat is going on here.. all i know is tat i check out guys .. ofcourse
maybe because iam not committed with someone right now…
My question to u gizzy: You just said that u would have checked out girls if u were not committed.. so suppose u break up with tat “Love of ur life”.. Would u again start checking out girls?
You see good looking people all the time.. walking by, in class, where ever ya go.. Theres nothing wrong with admiring or thinking to yourself, Oh that person was cute/hawt. Just don't make any lame comments, look forward & continue on with your day.... basically Get over it!!
There is nothing wrong with having sexual thoughts it is part of human nature. there is nothing wrong with finding someone of the other sex attrative. there is something wrong if you go and excerise upon those feelings if you are not supposed to.
She s 40 !!! 
too bad, her loss, I wanned to propose her 
