(Okay.. this is a question or a discussion for guys and girls, so feel free to reply)
[First let me expalin, what made me post this thread]
**Scenario: ** This is what happened.
I was walking down town with a male friend of mine. (we are close friends) Talk about everything.
So, as we walked. He said to me: ***“Oh, look.. check out that girl. Isn’t she hot!” ***
Now I, without having looked, said to him:** “What is wrong with you?” I went on saying: “You are in love with a girl, and you want to marry her, infact will be marrying her soon! So why do you go around looking and ogling at other girls?” **
He said to me: **“So what? She is not here right now. And it is allowed to only look! Its nothing wrong to just look” **
I said: **"Well, If you are in love with a girl, then you shouldn’t even look at or even think about other girls. It just doesn’t make sense. I can’t understand how you can do that? **
Then I said to him ke: **“The girl I love is always there, no matter if she is not physically there right now, and is not there all the time. But she is always there in my heart! She lives in my heart and my heart is always there and so she is! And I only think of her.” **
Having said that, I wanted to ask you ppl… To share your views and thoughts with me. What do you think? Who of us 2 friends is wrong or right? Is it allowed to just look? But I cant even make myself just look! So, Is something wrong with me then?
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Then I said to him ke: *"The girl I love is always there, no matter if she is not physically there right now, and is not there all the time. But she is always there in my heart! She lives in my heart and my heart is always there and so she is! And I only think of her." **
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Lucky gal?
Anyways, it all depends on how you feel, whether looking at other girls is betrayal to yours. Personally, if the girl you love can not stop you from looking at others, from the mere fact of existence, then maybe it's not love, just lust. I guess I belive in that true love crap, although I couldn't describe love even if my life depended on it.
Hi,
I think that the guy should not have passed such remarks. If some one passes such remarks about his wife, how he will feel?
As far as is the matter of love I agree that true love does not let u do things like that. Ur true love is always near to ur heart no matter where he or she physically is.
Wolfie, thanks for your reply. Donno if lucky or not?
But you made a point, that I was also trying bring forward. It looks like betrayal to me. That you look at other gals, while your own gal is not there!
The fact, that when you love a girl, that should be enough for you to stop looking… When you look, it shows you are not satisfied with what you have. And you want more?
i wish there were more guys like you Gizzy, seriously, with thoughts like you. sigh if a guy is gettin married or already loves a girl, then why should he check out other girls ?? that doesnt make sense and doesnt seem respectful to your own girl
so guys, who think its okay, lemme ask you a question: what if the girl you love, checks out other guys when she is with her girlfriends. like “omg, he is so tight, hot , whatever” would you like that ??
i think, if a girl and guy :love: each other, they wont even look at others persons in that way, cuz they’ll think that those people are nothing compared to the one they love. so others hotness won’t matter to them
Men and women should appreciate the level of hotness in this world. There is nothing wrong with that. If you told me he had an affair then it would be wrong.
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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
So what man!!! Was his wife bothered?
Men and women should appreciate the level of hotness in this world. There is nothing wrong with that. If you told me he had an affair then it would be wrong.
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for appreciating hotness, the sahara will do fine too.
anyway, appreciating beauty is more that you appreciate/acknowledge the OTHER person
whereas appreciating hotness (as u call it), is something to do with lust, which is more or less non-self control of YOURSELF.
No..it has nothing to do with self-control. If he lost self control, he would have done something about it. I am assuming he didn't so...stop judging people according to your morals and hope that your girlfriend has blinders on when you take her out also make sure she is tethered.
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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
No..it has nothing to do with self-control. If he lost self control, he would have done something about it. I am assuming he didn't so...stop judging people according to your morals and hope that your girlfriend has blinders on when you take her out also make sure she is tethered.
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well he did! he lessened the 'tension/energy' by making a remark about it to Gizzy!
so saying that he didn't do anything is false. He actually did do something!
by refuting the initial statement in ur post, the rest won't be worth commenting to.
Nessy, if he didn't say anything then this thread wouldn't be in existence. How do you know he "lessened his tension/energy" by saying something? That is quite an assumption , a judgemental one nevertheless.
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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
Nessy, if he didn't say anything then this thread wouldn't be in existence. How do you know he "lessened his tension/energy" by saying something? That is quite an assumption , a judgemental one nevertheless.
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well......what other purpose did that statement of his friend's serve other than lessening the tension/energy?
it's an assumption of course, but not a judgemental one......on the contrary, it gives a very good psychological explanation of WHY the person did as he did.
Yaar, the guys just said something. It doesn't mean the weight of the world is lifted or that his intentions with his fiancee are not honorable. That is just going too far.
I am sure he also trusts Gizzy and didn;t expect that what is said among/between friends would become the topic of the day on Gupshup :)
