Wow. How old your husband? I am in NO way rationalizing his behavior but the reason why he stormed off when he found out that your BIL told him that your husband shares explicit information about your marriage, I truly think he was embarrassed and caught red handed. At least he feels something in this situation.
I don’t think it was wrong of you to leave the house. You told him before never to share details about your marriage. He seems so immature. Unfortunately, I don’t think anything you say to him to make him understand why his actions are wrong will actually change him. Has he called you at all? This is just awful!
The guy seems like a rare piece of species. And co-incidence that your brother in Law is replica of your husband. Amazing.
I am a Guy. I can state with authority that about 78~87% guys , whether desi/ Non-desi , Muslim/Non Muslims Do not share their intimacy secrets with friends , colleagues etc.
However, we guys are not angels. About the same percentage of us guys Do enjoy looking at pretty and hot babes, chicks.
You women folks can Throw stones, hurl abuse at your will. I stated facts only.
Now comming back to the topic which requires intensive screening and staunch testing before I could comment.
Ms njavaeed ! I request you to please answer my questions. If you do, only then I will comment on your husbands nasty behaviour.
Q1. How long have you been married ? No. of children ?
Q2. What are other bad habbits of your husband ? How your family /relative and friends see him as a person ?
Q3. What is his life style ? Is he Metro-sexual. What about your B. in law ?
I’m very sorry that you’re in this horrible situation. I think your reaction is very understandable, and your husband is going to have to take active steps to regain your trust…
Why do men have such a problem admitting that they are wrong, apologizing, and making changes.
Men have control issues. They feel that we are disrespecting them if we say anything to them, other than dinners ready. They want us to ask for permission to friggin use the bathroom. Please make sure you ask your husband for permission before you die. I mean how can we dare to offend him and take the next step without his approval.
I am considering lesbianism. Please PM me if your interested. lol
To be honest, I’m sure there are girls that let the cat out of the bag. Most of my girlfriends are married and that topic DOES NOT COME UP.
I’ve heard of girls talking in more vague terms, but usually has to do with UTI’s, etc. Like “OMG I keep getting UTI’s now that I’m married. What do you do to prevent them??”
Guys normally dont do it and Desi guys? I’d guess around 90% follow the norm but there always are few who dont follow the norm.
btw, while we are talking about this, I know many desi girls have no hesitation telling about their intimate details to their close friends and sisters (and in few cases to their mothers too).
Where is the confusion? lol. Im saying that what he did was wrong. He was well aware, that is why he got defensive. That is a common trait among men, ESPECIALLY desi men. They have control issues, so if they are wrong, instead of apologizing, they get defensive and want to be left alone.
If your wrong, your wrong. Your not up to Allah’s level you are capable of making mistakes, and when a mistake is made you should apologize.
Sometimes we unawarely hurt others, when this happens dont try to present an explanation as this will be perceived as an excuse. Apologize, and show your spouse that you are hurt, when they are hurt.
how are you babe?!
