Can you please name one desi guy, that doesnt expect his wife to live with his parents, cook, clean, be his maid (when clearly Islam suggests that you get a maid for her if she cannot handle the work by herself), doesnt want her to be skinny, or gori, doesnt want her to look good all the time while cleaning, doesnt want her to smell like roses while cooking desi masala, doesnt want her to wait on him hand and foot even though she works full time, or even more than he does. Just name one DESI man that listens to his wife, the first time she asks him to do something that is for his OWN benefit, like work out, eat healthy, ETC.
I know plenty of men who are not like you described, people in my family and others I’ve known growing up. You don’t know any of them so my listing random names has no point. You are stereotyping like crazy. Ofcourse there are men like you have described. I’ll even give you that they may be a majority; but you can’t name one guy that isn’t like that (since you are asking me to name one); lol; I’m sorry you are surrounded by all horrendous desi men; I guess that would include men in your family too right? Because that is YOUR logic; that all desi guys are like that. Now stereotyping doens’t sound so much fun does it?
As soon as we suggest something, the man stops listening. He feels that since he is the head of the household he should not be told what to do or how to do it. He especially doesn’t want to hear anything negative about himself or his parents, as soon as he does, instead of resolving the issue, he gets defensive, walks out and wants to be left alone.
I was listening to an Islamic lecture on this, a man does not want to listen to a women talking because he wants to be in control, he wants to hear the solution to the problem he doesnt want to hear how you feel, VS a woman who wants to vent first and than fix the problem. This is often a problem in our society. The husband does not want to listen, which leads to the women discussing her personal problems with other people, which is not justified according to Islam. The person who she speaks to may not have her well being and best interest in mind. But hey if you aint gonna listen to her SOMEONE will! You do the crime you will do the time.
So, you’re saying that if a husband is being unreasonable; and yes in the case you just said of not listening to his wife is unreasonable (I agree), then the wife should just willy nilly talk to anyone? Wouldn’t a person know who has their best interest at heart (parents, siblings, best friend etc) and talk to them about their problem. Again, your point doesn’t make much sense. If a husband is being unreasonable, then a wife should too. That’s great logic.
Now, it is stated in many islamic lectures that human nature of men is to hear the problem, and hear the solution. But where is the resolution? What happens when a solution is being presented and the man walks away, and says he doesnt want to have to do anything with the girls family, like in this case?
How is that a man. Im sorry but selfish people like this are not men. They are spoiled children. The kind that rant and rave untill they get what they want.
Yes, then the man is an idiot! And I have already statred that previously in this thread. You probably skipped over it.
Example: Beruca Salt from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate factory made in 2005. Yes she completely fits the characteristics of this type of man.
Yes I know that not all men are like that. But a HUGE chunk are. Our society has a huge problem, everyone sees it but no one is willing to offer a solution. It is also not all the man’s fault. It takes two to tango. However, the fact that when faced with a problem a man will isolate himself greatly adds to the issue. Untill the man stands up, gives his wife her rights, and resolves this issue, she is not going to shut her mouth. Which may be wrong as well? But who in their right mind lets someone treat them badly and doesnt open their mouth. It is our right to inform someone when they hurt us in any way, shape, or form. However men consider this nakhre and whining.
**So now you finally state that it is a huge chunk and not all men. Thank you for not generalizing like you just did a few paragraphs above by asking to state even ONE desi who isn’t like that. **
I guess having your personal business shared with the entire world is no reason to get upset, how dare she! (SARCASIM).
And I already called the OP’s husband an idiot for behaving the way he did. 